I am a mother with 22 months cutie girl. My husband moved out one ahd half months ago, this is his 3rd time to move out. our main problem for arguement is his parents (we are chinese). He wants to his parents to visit us but I donot wanna. and this time his parents come and we were unhappy, so after his parents left, he moved out and asked a divorce; he told me he has started divorce process, i will soon get a first letter from his lawyer. I feel so sad, and after a month of thinking, I also want to give up saving our marriage, but how to my little daughter, I feel sorry for her; Right now my husbank told others about his reason to divorce is that we have different characters and in order to give my daughter a good life, we have to divorce. I donot know if I should divorce or try to save my marriage?
Iris, I think you need to post in a different forum. Why don't you try the forum I'm thinking about leaving'. you will find people there who are thinking about divorce themselves aswell. They might help you form a decision.
I'm not really clear on what's going on with your sitch. Do you still love him? Now please don't take this the wrong way but I need to ask... Why don't you want him to see his parents? How would you feel if he denied you to see your parents or family? He might feel rejected and hurt in his pride that you do not want his parents to visit you. And from a different perspective...my 3 year old doesn't have a granny because my mom and DH mom have passed on. Don't you want your 22 month old cutie to build a bond with her grandparents?? Even if you don't like them very much they still are family.... Hang in there and please post in the forum I suggested, you will get a lot more responses and help.
