Boy this gets better each day. She is at work today and we actually talk on the phone twice today. Yesterday her car was not running right - and she borrowed her B's car to get home. So she tells me that she talked to her girlfriend to get her in touch with her relative that is in the car business. Just last week she was bitching at me to replace my car since the tranny was going. So now she wants a new car and even said that maybe I should get a used 5 year old car. Hmmm I drive 30K miles each year so the used car should last like a year or two.
So being the financial idiot I tell her what the monthly payment will be for her $35K new car and what the payment would be for a $23K car for me. Keep in mind that we just are in the turnaround time after some tough financial times.
Let's see: New Wardrobe since she lost some weight Want's a trip to Switzerland for her birthday And a New Car
I feel like telling her it is time to go to work full time (both sets of parents are more than willing to watch the kids) as I am in no position to put our family in financial ruin. Furthermore I feel like telling her that I just cant see the future right now, so if you really want a car pursue it yourself and have your Mommy or Daddy cosign for it.
Have a nice evening going out with the boys to have some beers and peanuts.
"Hope for the best - but be prepared for the worst"
I see that your day went as well as my night. we both have W's that want to be in high school, their freedom and new exciting adventures. I think someone must have forgot to tell them they grew up and have responsibilities. You and I are in the same boat here, do you have any idea what is going to happen when school starts? Mine mentioned in July that we would live at the house for 2 weeks then stay at a friends for 2 weeks. Real stable environment for the kids, "dad are you going to be here next week, I need this or that. No you'll have to call your mother she has the house next week".
My selfish time is coming next month not sue if you hunt but I live for it. I have plans along with 35 off days to do nothing but hunt screw the 2 week thing. I hope that she figures this all out by then because then it's the holidays and I will not be staying any place other than my bed during that time. She wanted this she can leave as far as I am concerned. (venting)
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
N/W Hope I dont hunt but I use to love sporting clays. I fly-fish and golf -so one sport had to go at one time. Sold all the guns still wish I had the Browning XS with 32 barrels loved that gun. I have a few vacation days left and plan to go fly fishing with my buds next month.
Anyway I am starting to get scared about next week as the kids start school. The W has been on the party train for a few weeks now. She wakes up this morning at 5:00 blowing her nose and then throws up at 6:00 stating that she is allergic to the cats which we have had for like 8 years. She went golfing with our friends; I took a pass as I wanted to finish staining the deck and meet up with a good friend afterwards for a few beers. I am glad I came home after she did as she was passed out in bed already.
I could not look at her straight in the face this morning. She looked like a train hit her. We are meeting up with some friends tonight to go to a concert and I am really not looking forward to it. I am sure she will get another snoot full of champagne and wine tonight. And then we have the lovely drive to our cottage afterward hope she passes out in the car.
Misery Loves Company she really became tight with one of her G friends lately. Her friend has also gone through some tough marital problems and actually recommended our C to us. Not sure if this is a good thing as she gets the inside scoop on what transpires in C sessions.
Not sure how to address the drinking thing partying once in a while is one thing but for her it is really getting out of control. Do I bring it up in the joint C session? Should I try to communicate with C prior?
Getting more frustrated left msg. with theC to see if I can some seperatly before our joint session.
W called to let me know that the car dealer called and outlined lease and payment options for a new car. I told W that we should sit down and talk prior to jumping in on buying anything right now. She was not happy - like she is ready to just do it. Had to tell her that I just did not see the future right now and I do not want to dwell on the past Also, told her that I do not want to hurt the family financially. She agreed that she does not see any future. I guess my point is that I want a future with her but we are not going to get there any time soon.
Not looking forward to seeing her tonight and going out socially.
Damn - I need to put on that fake happy face - where did I put that thing.
AKFLY I know about the car, W was hit in March broad side by a guy doing 60. 10 more feet farther ahead and the kids would have dead. This accident happen in March may have started this ball rolling, I know that she gets nervous going through intersections. Totaled the car, so we got her a newer one and spent a little more b/c we knew we would be keeping it for a while. God I wish I would have known that this was going to happen I would have bought a different car for her.
Also know what that train wreck looks like, I seen it a few times. You see and hear so many personalities when you are with them or talk with them. It some time feels like dealing with a two year old on xmass. They get the toy they want play with it for 2 minutes and then climb into the box b/c it's more fun.
Good luck this weekend, I'll be working keeping Gotham city safe
"Worry is the price you pay for most of the things in life that never happen"
It seems like I have hit the point of not caring anymore. What happens happens. Friday we had a short discussion about financial matters namely the car. Her car her debt and I want it in writing. I am not getting stuck with more debt. Also told her to start thinking of the positive things in the past instead of the negatives. I am sick of her dwelling on her teenage years where her parents were to controlling and did things that they even know regret. This came up in conversations with a mutual friend and my BIL. Told her she can only change the future.
You just get tired of the meanness and her grumpy faces. Even told her last night to stop giving me that grumpy look.
Attitude for the day is to try to make it work but I am sick of it taking over my life.
