Hi all! Its been a long time since i have posted,in fact i had to re register as i had forgotten my pass word. So many new people here it makes one sad.And to think of all the other people out there that are going thru this and have no idea about this site.
Well things are still moving at a snails pace here. I have seen signs of my old H coming thru, but they are still long spells inbetween. I get excited when they do happen and pray and hope that he is moving closer to the end of the tunnel. He still looks like heck but i still love him. Hard to believe that it is going on 3yrs that he moved out.He is still with the rivertrash that he moved in with. There are more and more talks about him seeing the light about her and her son, but he can still not detach from that mess yet. I know that i am soooo tired. I have thought about just throwing in the towel and walking away, but my mind and heart won't let me. The few times that i have even thought about moving on and finding someone else, the only person that comes to mind is H. So i quess i am stuck waiting for him to emerge. He is thinking about others more and more, and when he says that he will do something, most times he will. He has been coming to holidays with the family, birthdays, 4 of July, our anniversary, and helping the son-in-laws with different things.He talks about us doing different things together,about opening up a business together but they talks about building the things for the store at his castle. I just agree and let him rattle on and encourage him when he needs it. There are days when he asks how he got himself in so much money troubles and then there are days when he is so proud of all the things that he has bought on credit.
I don't know how much longer it will be before he comes out but i keep praying that it will be soon. He is still sleeping all the time and i know that there is no peace at his castle from what he tells me in his converstations. Just not sure how he is going to finally make the final brake. I wonder if and when he does, will he come home or will he look for someone else? How do you tell what the outcome will be?
So that is where i am, still not anywhere close. Karen58, Mermaid, Snodderly,( Snodderly, please tell Sting that i thing of her often too and i said Hi,maybe this skiddish colt it starting to grow-up) i think of you often and include you all and everyone here in my prayers. I'll be back soon to write more. Huggs and Prayers, Sonni
I feel for you. 3 years and still having hope - that is amazing and an encouragement to me. It has been six months separation for me and I recently came upon some information that makes me want to throw in the towel, but I too can not envision being with anyone else and believe that she is in MLC.
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I wonder if and when he does, will he come home or will he look for someone else? How do you tell what the outcome will be?
That is a great question and one I often wonder myself, but I think we both know that we can not predict the outcome and only take care of ourselves. I can so relate and am impressed with your holding in there. Best of luck.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
Hi JMC. Sorry that you find yourself here, but there are alot of great people here that can give wonderful support. Yes, if i thought for one minute that this was not MLC, I would have given him the choice of coming home or being thru. So on i go, praying and waiting for his return. Take care and come back to visit. Sonni
I am so happy to hear an update. I have thought about you often and wondered where you were in your stitch.You are so patient. Hang in there. You are doing so well.
It is so good to hear from you. I am so glad you posted. I think of you often and have been wondering how you are. It sounds as though things have not changed much w/ your H. What about you? What's been going on w/ your life, your home?
Things are pretty well over for me, I suppose they have been for years now, but IKWYM about not being able to think about being w/ someone else. I don't miss being in a couple, I miss my H! Even thinking about being w/ someone else is . . . ew. People don't understand that so I don't really talk about it much b/c I got sick of defending my life all the time. You just have to live the way that's right for you -- and let other happinesses in to make that life.
I am so thankful that you pray for me. I need that so much. I am praying for you too.
Hi all. Karen58, i tried to post to you, but your stich is full, so start a new one please! Something weird happened to me last week, has nothing to do with H, but to do with xH. We have been divorced for a very long time and in that time he has had many wifes. Well it seems that his anniversary with currant W was last week. He took present wife to a favorite place we use to go and stay with the kids back when! Calls our kids (2 from that marriage ) and asks them if they can guess where he is, when they say no, he tells they and they goes on to tell them about the place and how it looks nothing like it use to when we use to go there! I was stunded when the kids told me this, has this man been in MLC for years and no one has known about it? or is he just nuts?! I saw him at one of the grandsons birthday party Sunday, and when i had a moment alone with him, i told him that i had heard about him going there. Asked him what it was like and he went into great detail about how things have changed and on and on. When he got done, i looked at him and told him that i think that he took the wrong wife with him! You should have seen the expression on his face! As if a light bulb had just been turned on! It just amazed me!
On with the present H. He seems to have scared himself and gone back up the tunnel. He is still calling but i have not seen him in a few weeks now. Everytime that I mention seeing him or him coming to the house to help with something, he has all kinds of reasons why he can't. I know this will pass again, it is just hard waiting. I keep asking God for guidence as to what i am suppose to do the same what that you do Karen58 and alot of other people here.Just seems that no answers come or at least none that i know of. I wonder too what will happen to H if i stop waiting, leaving no one to pray for him or for him to see a place that he can go to when he finally can break free. Then there are times that i don't think that he will ever leave his castle. OW and him had a small history right before us, and when he first got with her, he told me that they always had a connection.So am i really waiting for something that will never happen? I just don't know.It seems as time goes on, my eyes are opened more and more to the way he has always been. Have i been making excuses for the way he has done things in our marriage, things that i just accepted. I can see him doing things the same way with OW and wonder why he has not realized what is going on? Will he be the same if and when he emerges from his MLC, or will he have grown up? So many questions that go thru my mind everyday. Well enough wondering, guess that i will go for now,take care. Huggs and Prayers, Sonni
I hadn't realized my thread was locked. Things are so boring in my "sitch" (if you can even call it that anymore) that my threads just drag along forever. I will start another one in a little while when I feel able to.
Still wondering what YOU are up to. You seem to spend some nice time w/ family, but what else? Are you working at all? Hobbies / activities? Just wondering what you've been up to.
Keep asking God for direction and sit and listen. Lately I really seem to lack the discipline for that second part myself. I found a retreat to go on soon and am hoping that will help. I've never gone on one before and I figure it's high time.
