I've been laying low, working on my life and obviously visiting here from time to time.
Update. My exSO has got his gfriend pregnant. She's due in 2 months. He still lives two doors down from me. They are not getting married. They are not moving in together.
Apparantly they were going through a rough patch and she's on the pill and boom, surprise, surprise, she's pregnant!
When asked if he loves her he says I don't know. (not to me, to others, cause I haven't talked to him about that at all.)
I feel bad for him. I do hope he buckles down and makes a good dad.
Well that's that. Hopefully this just helps me really move forward.
Don't know why things had to go this way, spiritually I mean, but it's how they are. I do still love him, but I will leave him alone.
I found this information out from a mutual friend. I'm just going to leave it alone. I'm not going to say anything to him about me knowing or anything. Just leave it alone. Move on.
White - you KNOW I can very much relate to what you are going through right now. Even though the D was final with my XH 2 years ago (in less than 2 weeks) - hearing that his new wife is preggers was a little heartbreaking. For me, I felt good and ok sending him an email saying congrats. I am so glad you are more at peace and more happy. You and I went through A LOT the past 2 years and we are better, stronger women for it. Thanks for helping me through so many dark, down times. You may very well have helped save my life.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
I just want all the LBS's here in MLC who fear this happening to them...I just want to say, don't worry.
I was never actually married and every time I prayed to God, the two of them actually came closer together and more shocking news came my way. In fact, I was feeling so strong this week that I said, okay God, I'm ready for the next piece of news and then here I get it, even though everyone else on the entire planet seems to have kept it from me for 7 months, I got it now.
I do feel like God is here for me. I just think that though I really love this person and really value what we shared and don't know how I will ever replace it... I just think that when you get married and the vows are real and you include God in that process, that there is something special there. Something that I did not have. Perhaps a bit more safety among spiritual warfare.
I just wanted everyone to know that I don't understand it or know why things had to be this way, but I do think this is the way that God wants it.
Those of you with children who are married, I think that God is truly on your side and will watch over you and I pray that your marriages will be restored.
In my case I have the feeling that my prayers have been answered by having him being taken from me. I don't know why that is. I don't know why I've had to go through this pain. But I accept it. I've learned what I can from it. I have given up and given my life over to God over and over and over again.
Today has been a hard day. I went to the movies and every friggin kid I saw...but that's that.
TMW, I know you have been wanting to lose weight, one good thing about this is I will probably drop those last ten pounds over this. LOL
Cinderellaman, NickyF, Mermaid thanks for taking the time to post. I really appreciate it.
Better days to come. I will never live with someone before marriage again and any marriage I do have will include GOD.
WL, MArried or not this must really have hurt. My H told me when he first left taht he didn't want anymore kids BUT he is living with a woman who is 18yrs his junior so at some point a decision will have to be made. For now they are too set on travelling the world for it to happen but deep down I expect to find myself in your shoes sooner rather than later. I only hope I can be as magnanimous about it as you are.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I just had to look up what, "magnanimous," meant. What a great thing to be called.
Please don't think this will happen to you. If that chick is 18 she probably doesn't want kids anytime soon, so she probably won't play that card. If travel is what she's after, she'll just milk him for all his dough and by that time he'll finally wake up.
In my situation, this girl is closer to 30, so she's ready to start her family.
