Thanks - just figured out how to post. In respect to the "more to it" - this is the second time, he drinks, thats the real problem. Good luck with your M.
Both - 38 Step D -16 Together 4+, Married 3(in Sept), friends 7 S Bomb - April 07
"He who pursues righteousness and love finds life,prosperity and honor."
I agree, its hard, but maybe try going dark like ks chick said. might help...if only to get your mind off of him for a bit.
I'm really sorry that you are going thru this. it just sucks.
I wish we all lived closer together. Oh well, in lieu of that, at least we have this board. I hate to think where I would be without this forum.
I think I have to go dark to keep my sanity.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
hey, if you are ever in boston, we'll have to try to get together. I'm tempted to put a post out to anyone in/around boston and see if they want to do a GAL meet, actually. too bad you are so far away!
having the forum is great, though, isn't it? I wish I had found it sooner. not sure if it would have changed anything, but it would have been nice to have the support earlier on. and would have saved my sister some middle-of-the-night phone calls.
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M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Dom, can I ask what you mean about going dark being serious, not done lightly? guess I'm just asking for specifics.
I can't really go dark, since we have young kids and talk daily/see each other several times a week. but I have (for the most part) stopped calling him/creating reasons to call him. I've slipped a bit lately, but for the most part have held strong with that.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
yeah, I need some elaboration too. I (until the TM I sent him to tell him to get his mail) haven't been calling him or emailing him or whatever.
I know that in a sense I look better off than most since he isn't (as far as i know) involved with anyone else. But in another way it's worse because he isn't "in the fog". And he is purposely trying to get in the fog.
I didn't plan to write a Plan B letter or anything; more like fall off the planet.
Inquiring minds.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
hey, if you are ever in boston, we'll have to try to get together. I'm tempted to put a post out to anyone in/around boston and see if they want to do a GAL meet, actually. too bad you are so far away!
I keep saying I want to travel...hmmmm............(scratching head....)
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
