We left off with the STBX trying a half hearted abduction of my kids and some really crazy spewing, that has since changed in a big way.
STBX has been a very different person these last few weeks, if I had to guess I would say she is poking her head waaaaay out of the tunnel making some significant changes in her behavior towards myself and the kids. She has been spending ALOT more time with the kids and bending for my schedule. I wanted to attend an auction a couple of weeks ago and offered to let her have time with the kids instead of getting a sitter, her old self would have given me a big FU for even asking but this time she agreed and was happy to help out. She is much more talkative and pleasant in her interactions with me and has directed her venom and spew at her mother for the most part.
She has done some very bizarre things in the last few weeks as well, she called a friend in front of me and suggested her friend take OM out drinking for the night, she's been snooping around my house and checking my phone, it's funny but it looks like she is acting a little like a LBS at times. She calls and works very hard to keep me on the phone and this weekend when she was calling from OM hometown (she ran out of town because of our 19th anniversary yesterday), she was sneaking outside to call sounding on the verge of tears at times. I actually thought I was gonna get a "come home" request yesterday by the way the call was going. She is showing her pregnancy now and claims to be 5 months into it but it looks farther along to me.
I've been pretty cold to her the last couple of months, very short in my words and absent from her visits with the kids, sharing nothing about myself or my life. This seems to have had an effect although my goals have changed from wanting her to return to simply wanting her to step up to the plate in regards to the kids.
I figure she's about half baked at this point and just hope things continue to be fairly good with the kids. She still has a long way to go and all the time in the world to get there.
MLC plus pregnancy hormones! What a combo... I wonder if that's a first.
No real advice from me - remembered your story and am glad to see your update.
You sound so calm about it all. Good for you.
M: 33 MLC/WAH: 33 M 6 yrs, together 12 2 kids: 5,2 Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D
Ya know what? I feel sad for her too, in that way you feel sad for someone you don't really know.
Lissie, thanks for coming by, and nice to see you back again.
Still hoping, I can be calm now because it's over, the pregnancy was the straw that broke my back.
KS, I have been nicer than she has any right to expect, it's one of the downfalls of being a nice guy.
Figgy, Keep your shoes on girly, GF is treating me very well
Had a strange call from STBX tonight, she was supposed to see the kids today but didn't call until almost bedtime. She spoke to the kids and then began another round of keep Billy on the phone. She said she was still out of town and was very ill, so ill that she was hospitalized today. I met that with silence, she asked how the kids were doing and I replied to that, then she was back on the pity me wagon.................yup you guessed it, more silence from me. I was silent for over a minute at one point, she figured out that I would give no sympathy and finally got off the phone. I am begining to wonder what could possibly happen next
I know you've been nice. I guess the only reason I said that is I caught a glimpse of you possibly enjoying her pain or whatever she's going through. Some of these sitches are so surreal.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I know you've been nice. I guess the only reason I said that is I caught a glimpse of you possibly enjoying her pain or whatever she's going through. Some of these sitches are so surreal.
You know, back in the beginning of this mess I thought I would thoroughly enjoy each bad thing that came her way, I figured it was karma and it was all for me.
She has had some pretty bad stuff happen since I had those thoughts so long ago and each bad thing that happens saddens me a little. I care about her, wish her well and hope she comes through this a better person but I sure don't love her and I won't have her back. It's kinda hard to explain what the emotions are where I am at now but I guess that the above is pretty close.
