No real change from my previous thread. Things have calmed down considerably since the blow up in regards to settlement of assets.
W has been pleasant again, after our long conversation in regards to divorce and other matters. We have come to an agreement with pretty much everything (as impossible as most of you may think in regards to agreeing to anything when it comes to custody and assets etc).
She came home early from Kick boxing yesterday (earlier than ever before), and today she didn't bother going to rock climbing (for the first time in 10 months).
I get the impression that she is not as happy as she thought she would be. Possibly due to my conceding that there can be no resolution, that she has gone too far to "mend" things.
I know it may get some of you angry with me, but sometimes you reach your limit, and I am a reasonable and considerate man, but to be honest, I could never forget let alone forgive everything that has happened. That is me being honest.
So my main aim now is to be as civil and caring to W as I can, and make sure that DD is looked after, and does not feel the effects of this divorce (as best as I can make it for her).
Who knows what may happen in the future, but for now I know this is the best option for me and DD.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
Good to see you are enjoying life, its about time.
I think you are well withing your rights to have a mini MLC. Go out there and enjoy, you only live once. Also, it appears that your W is starting to become interested in you now that you are having this new lease on life.
I know it may get some of you angry with me, but sometimes you reach your limit, and I am a reasonable and considerate man, but to be honest, I could never forget let alone forgive everything that has happened. That is me being honest.
I completely understand. I feel the exact same way. Our spouses are the ones that made the choices and took it so far. There is a point of no turning back, and I have reached it to. Like you, I would just like to get the D finalized civily and move on with my life....here's to better things.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Great positive message. From my perspective, that's the main goal of DBing - self improvement. We will be better people (and better spouses) to whomever we end up with - our current WAS or another lucky partner.
I am sorry that your daughter has to go through this. She is an innocent victim of these circumstances.
BTW, the "point of no return" is nigh here as well. WAW has two trips planned with OM. I figure after the second trip is over, I will be absolutely indifferent to our marriage.
Sorry to hear about your W going on two trips with OM, but believe me, when my W went on her trip with OM a few weeks ago, it didn't feel as bad as I thought. Sort of "out of sight out of mind".
I got to spend more time with DD during that time.
And who knows what will happen in the future. In alot of these sitches (that are panning out like ours), couples do reconcile later on, whether it is in 6 months or 2 years.
Who knows how we will feel in 6 months or 2 years.
At the moment my heart and mind is already made up, but as you know, time heals all wounds. This is the decision I have made for "today".
It sounds like you are getting to a better place emotionally, which is really good to hear. Like I keep saying, it does get better with time.
No mate, I got some of it done. It didn't really matter in the long run, most of the stuff that is boxed will be moved when we sell the house.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
