H is moving out this week and says he'll file for divorce. I have NEVER begged, whined, cried, pleaded or anything to make him stay. I have always let him do what he felt he needed to. He is not speaking to me, and I don't know what will happen after he moves out. I can't stop doing harmful things, because I don't do them in the first place. How can I open lines of communication? I always let him inititate contact, so as not to "cling". We have n o kids or financial arragenemtns to discuss, so no real reason to stay in touch. Any help is appreciated!
It is so hard to analyze what is a 180. Write down what patterns you had and do the opposite. Be patient and see what works. Dump what does not. I was very confused by this concept but it does take work. If you were complacent and non communative, be chatty and friendly. If you were motherly and a caretaker, be flirty and act like you need help. Sounds contrived but think of it as a shift.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
