I'm fighting the hell out of that same thing, 789. It's all very disillusioning.
But I'd rather take people at face value and be disappointed sometimes than to become jaded and untrusting and never get close enough to have that chance.
He divorced her. Only takes 6 months if you don't have kids.
What a horrible story. Seriously...I've been on these boards for months and months now and I still don't understand what makes a person do that. I don't want to become jaded either but hearing story after story really makes me wonder about people.
M:32 W:26 Kids: None Cats: 2 Together: 9 years Married: May 2005 Bomb: September 2006 Sep: November 2006
I will NOT become jaded! I have plenty of reason to (4 of them) but it won't happen! Way to much to worry about besides what someone might or might not do.
Love em all, just don't be stupid.
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
Yuck! I think I need to take a shower. And I just threw up in my mouth. Did I say Yuck! I imagine her illness has her all messed up, but still! Yuck!
Anyway, on a much better subject, I think. Amy, I think there's a lot more good going on in your situation than you realize. It sounds to me like Jeff is getting more comfortable with you. That's got to happen, and then he can start to rebuild his trust. It is going to take a while, and it is going to be really, really slow, and frustrating. And I guess maybe it won't happen. But I think you've finally gotten to a place where it is really possible. And I think being pretty darned still is a good idea!
cire, I don't want to become jaded, and you are a damned optimist of the n'th degree, commend you on that. I don't want to even have my (2nd of them), still hopeful on that front. My problem isn't just them, I don't want to be a dad of two sons, with two different wives and not be able to live with either sons FULL TIME. Just still in that scared mode I suppose.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I wanted to share a story with you. When my whole affair thing went down, I had no one to talk to. I was very selective in who I talked to about my story, because I didn't want to be judged. At church, on an old messageboard (Christian) that I posted at, etc. I didn't want to be judged. Amy I know you know that feeling. Pride is SO HUGE!...
That being said, I have a few Christian friends who have not judged me. I had faith in them that they wouldn't judge. Others, not so much. I wish I could be more open, but even still I'm scared of being judged.
Love her, pray for her and offer her an ear (and an occassional 2x4 if necessary...)
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
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