I have set baby goals and have seen some positives but the longer that this goes on, the more he appears to be pulling away. I am especially feeling this now with the D filing but I did put hopefully some thoughts in his head that the door hasn't been shut. Wow he is involved with this OW, he doesn't want to have anything to do with me and if they end then i am sure he will just move on to the next.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
Here's another little tip. Throwing yourself into other sitches helps take your mind off yours (and your problems and your pain, etc.) It makes you stronger.
Really?
Do you know anyone that this has worked for?
UDM, WC
P.S. Some real gold in this thread. Thanks, as always.
I wanted to see your mini-journalling, too! That's okay. I can wait. I have tons of boxes to pack, so I guess I'll do that, and lurk around the board a bit.
See you later!
Last edited by Lyrael; 08/01/0710:52 PM.
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Packing - I am supposed to be moving from Illinois to Arkansas next weekend. My H is supposed to be coming up this Friday to stay for a week, pack us up, and move us down there.
I'm not sure I am doing the right thing by moving - I am having that weird flip-flop that sometimes happens after things are fixed. I'm concerned that I am going to move away from all of my close friends and my family, and then he is going to have infidelity issues, and I am going to end up alone in a new state. I can handle that, but I am not always sure that I want to.
Whew. I don't really know where that came from, but there it is.
I hope you are having a peaceful night so far. How are you doing?
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Lets see that back-journaling get started, eh? I finally read all six pages of this thread and got no info on what's going on in Nomo's world . Good stuff throughout though. I read that Act As If article Ewe posted too -- excellent stuff! That info from SventheRed was also very inspiring!
Good talking with you last night btw. I had yet another backslide today. Kind of like the one from last weekend, but this one seems to actually be worse. I'll be posting in a little bit -- after I get the kids to bed (which I'm going to do right.....now!)
I know you've got a lot on your plate--and not all of it Angus sirloin (hey, Sunny!)--but I was wondering if you, or anyone who posts here, could check in on Shiloh in the divorced forum?? I'm not sure WHAT to tell her. It's a pretty short thread...
Late tonight, is my very serious goal.