Hi All - Another issue I have been dealing with throughout this whole ordeal over the last 5mons is what to do with our investment properties. Over the last 3 yrs or so we have bought 6 rental duplexes. At first they were an investment for our families future. My wife agreed, by signing the papers at the closing table, to buy each property in both our names. At some point over the last couple years it became my problem not hers. She even got to the point where she now says she never wanted them in the first place so its my problem. Nice huh? Another ex. of something that bothered her but never told me about it. We just bought our last one 9mons ago. Once she started her new insurance business she didnt want anything to do with these investment properties. They became my sole responsibility. Just another example of how "controling" I am. At least lets what she's telling everyone why she's leaving me. Boo Hoo! Your feeling stressed out. Join the fing club. Who can I pawn all this responsibility on? No one. Me. Now all she cares about is her stupid business. Not me. Not our daughter. Just her stupid business. It's ironic. We started this business together 8 mons ago as a way for her to have a job where she could make good money but more importantly have more time for her family. All the previous sales jobs she has had took a crazy amount of her time. Once we had our daughter I thought she wanted to slow down. Little did I know she had a future in mind for her family except I wasn't part of it. UGH!!! I can't believe how selfish she is being. She is taking out on me any man that has ever hurt her. I just feel like giving up myself. Let the properties go into forclosure. Why should I keep on fighting? The only reason I agreed to buy these places and manage them in the first place was as an investment for our daughters and our families future. What's stopping me from letting them burn to the ground? Afterall they are covered by her new insurance business If she keeps on hurting me and being mean to me I'm going to lose my motivation to keep going.
Just venting. I wish my wife would have been stronger and told me how she felt before we took on all these responsibilities. Including having our daughter. I would have never wanted to raise her in this type of environment.
You need to do what is right for you and your daughters future right now, don't concern yourself with what she is or is not doing. Remember you said it is an investment for the future, those plans should not change either way.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
She does not even sound stable enough to make these decisions. Can you sit on it for a while without pressing on? An pressure may chase her further away since she has stress from starting a new business. All the extra stress may create resentment toward you and your dreams about the future. You may still have a chance to have a happy steady future together so why blow it? Keep on DBing for your D. I am also in a strange sitch regarding my house. It is in my name but I live in CA. My mom helped me with the deposit. My H is temporarily homeless and has no money. He has no interest in money. I do not want to talk to a lawyer because I do not want to send the message that we are getting a divorce.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
If she keeps on hurting me and being mean to me I'm going to lose my motivation to keep going.