cades, ouch. I have not replyed or heard from my OP since I got back. last thing she did was send me a e-card. I had to E-mail a sweet young thing at work about a problem a few minutes ago and thought how come if I had and affair I would be scared Sh@tless of her husband finding out. But it seem here the OM & OW don't care?
got to go pick up my son back soon
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
W called on the phone. Got my E-mail. (Didn’t mention anything about the sex part oh well). But she was talking about getting a connection from work so when I have my surgery she could be home in case I needed anything or to run our son around. I started to say there's no need (detaching) but then remembered "agree with everything" so instead I said " Yea that's a good idea” She was telling me not to go over her moms and do any work until I am better and then said “if your surgery is the week we were going to fort brag we need to cancel the trip. Again I started to say “I’ll be alright you and Anthony can go” but again. Instead said” yea I’m sorry I guess you are right” Boy I tell you I didn't realize how much I always countered what my W said. I often noticed when she countered me. But not the other way around. I guess it takes two to tango.
Hubby
Last edited by husband; 07/23/0711:05 PM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Sounds like you're getting a lot of use out of the "Stop your divorce" book. It recommends agree w/ everything. I'm finding a lot of success w/ it. Today the wife mentioned she might take my kids to Boomers(a kids restaurant) and asked if I wanted to go(drive myself). It was actually an invitation!! I told her, if it didn't bother her that I was there I'd be happy to go. Well she didn't end up going, but the fact is she offered to invite me. I do think it's the thought that counts.
Today we also e-mailed each other the fact that she'll be serving me soon for divorce. I spoke to her on the phone and asked if she still wanted a D. She said yes. I then asked if she could tell me why(as if OM wasn't enough reason), then I said when she's ready she could tell me. All the while I was agreeable and indifferent.
It sounds like you are fairing well. I've had my relapses in private where I totally loose it and just start balling like a baby. Then there are moments where I'm so happy to be free of the troubles we had. If you have any insight I'd love to know. I'm just going day to day. Lunching with some very attractive women and enjoying it thoroughly. I even sensed a touch of jealousy when I mentioned I wanted to take our kid to the doctor since she seemed very nice(and perhaps single).
Anyway, just wanted to congratulate you on the use of your agree w/ anything and let you know there are many other useful techniques in that book. Things like indifference to the divorce, acting happy(DR), sympathize w/ them. Keep reading it, it's really been a great help.
Best of luck w/ the house mate.
ME: 39 ring on wife:38 ring off WAW/MLC son:17,11 dtr:9 mar:17yr Bomb4-27-07. EA/PA 2/07 with 22yr old. DBing 5-19-07 My story on the link below. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1069470&page=0#Post1069470
I didn't wear my "man panties". Like I said being naked with a woman for the first time in a year was already too much to handle." Now to top it off the surgeon is a woman also. I get to see her on Friday. Being naked with two women in one week. Tell me I'm not "GALing". I just hope the "wind don't change" if you know what I mean.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
If it was "Save your marriage" yes I did. I didn't think too highly about it because it contradicted some things in DR. It asks that I do small things for my wife when right now she needs her space. It didn't give too many new suggestions. I did read it but sorry, it didn't give good advice. I'm sticking to DR and Stop your divorce as my main books of choice.
If it was another book, no I didn't receive it.
ME: 39 ring on wife:38 ring off WAW/MLC son:17,11 dtr:9 mar:17yr Bomb4-27-07. EA/PA 2/07 with 22yr old. DBing 5-19-07 My story on the link below. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1069470&page=0#Post1069470
There's all those nurses, too. When they give you one of those paper kimonos to wear, you can pretend that you can't manage putting it on all by yourself--the hernia's too agonizingly painful--without the help of several females...then leave it very loosely tied, and let it fall negligently to the ground in graceful folds as you're strutting down the corridor to the bathroom to provide a urine sample...
