Faith that God is Working on H

[Upside]

I said a prayer for you and your H too. Be strong.

[kissak]

Praying also....

[ANewMe]

Thank you so much for all your prayers. Unless something happens suddenly like has been discussed several times lately in Charlyne's newsletters, I will be divorced very soon. H won the objection to th judgment. My attorney it turns out is not very good. I have suspected that but I had already paid for his services and couldn't afford to change lawyers. He didn't even understand the issue, so he just agreed with H's attorney. It means I will get less in child support and I got Nada from H's LARGE bonus check that he got early in 2006.

I am trying to look at the positives here. I will have a little more money than I have now. H will get a chance to find out what it is really like to be divorced and have to pay and have less money that he had to spend on skank Ho OW.

I am still standing and I will still be wearing my wedding rings because as far as I am concerned I am still married.

I will keep you posted.
Thanks,

[plentyhope]

ANM, So sorry that your attorney let you down. Yes, I agree that your H will find out the negatives of being divorced, and he will get to know the true colors of OW. I so admire you for still standing, regardless of whether the divorce goes through.
Love, PH

[Bislandgal]

Dear NM
I don't post much these days but just wanted to fly in here to say you are truly amazing . You have achieved so much in dior circumstances. I remember being told that once and being sent flowers by a friend ...simply because I was managing to smile despite all I all that I was going through.

You are an amazing person and I do appreciate the stresses your job entails as I have been teaching all my life until this year.

You rock Newme . Awesome lady.

[ANewMe]

Guess what I get for my birthday this year!! H is moving into a house with OW! Isn't that nice of him. The boys are very upset. S17 said he will NEVER go to the house. S20 says he has chosen her and her daughter over them again. I am just horribly sad and angry. Is this the answer to my many prayers?

I tried to explain to S20 that his dad is in the stage of a teenage kid and only thinking of what he wants at the time not the long-term effects of his decision. S20 made the observation the the skank acts like she is 17 and she was the only one around acting the same way as he was so that is why they are together. OW has always wanted to stay 17 so this is not new for her. I am sure this means another sports season with skank ho at every game again despite S17 asking her not to be and S20 despising her.

I have been praying for a man to be put in H's life who is a believer, so that he can guide H to God. I hope someone comes into his life soon before he completely loses his sons and marries her. I am just praying harder now. I don't know what else to do. I don't know how many more times my heart can be shattered by all of this.

Thanks for listening.

[Lissie]

(sigh)

I want you to know first, I luv you mamma.

I am sorry you are so hurt.

I feel, and this is only MY corny opinion.

I feel you are stuck. And the reason is the OW.

When you forgive her, you will be free.

You will be able to pray with an open heart.

So instead of praying for your H to come to his senses, and to come back to you right now.

You may want to pray for God to fill your heart with forgiveness.

You may want to pray for God to fill you with empathy for her, for she will never know true love, or true happiness, and that is sad.

I know you feel that your marriage, was destroyed b/c of this woman. And you feel that your H will never come home b/c of this woman.

But I honestly believe that things are in God's time. And God may be showing you a lesson here, right now, about forgiveness.

And we may not get it, and we may not understand it, and boy we may hate it.

But, until we are able to just let that go, we remain stuck.

And you are to beautiful, and caring, and giving, to remain stuck.

luv ya

[butterflymom]

Lissie,
That was beautiful and a lesson that we all probably need. I know I do. That was a big 2 X 4 to me.

BFM

[kissak]

I forgive OW, but I don't have to like her at all!

[Cinderellaman]

I'm not sure I've forgiven her completely, but I do know that I feel sorry for her, her life will never be a FULL one with H, as he will not offer her marriage or children...she has a 36 year old man with a wife and 3 kids in the background...he has MLC...he has problems with his own parents...I do not think her life will be a happy one like this...but only God knows I suppose.

I feel sorry for her most of all, and often pray to God to let her find a nice young man to start her own family and future with !