Her last thread locked & that was way back in early June. What's up?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I've been spending most of my free time sublimating my sexual and relationship issues by concentrating on things such as.... "let's plan next year's vacation down to the most minute detail"....and other fun stuff like that. I've also been focused on work because I am in the midst of a promotion/raise which I have been waiting for too long. All systems go now though so that is good news. Really don't have anything new to report about the M. We are in a fairly steady state. Going to try and catch up on some of the other threads now. Hope all is well.
Hey LFL, good to hear from you. I'm glad that you're staying busy, sometimes that is a welcomed break from the constant nagging thoughts about our Ms!!
And hey, maybe there can be some vacation sex scheduled into the minute details of your vacation?? Ya never know...
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
Thanks for the kind words Heather. Yes, keeping busy keeps my mind off the M issues to a degree. Some days are better than others. Getting along great and all but..... Well, you know the rest. As for scheduling some sex into these vacations, nope. These are family trips. Kids lying 5 feet away in the next double bed type trips. BUT we did have sex last week while away for a long weekend wedding trip so.... It could be worse.
I am very glad to hear that you are still hanging in there. Gosh, I see a lot of familiar names still on here. I don't know if it is good that the support resource still exits or if it is bad that so many still need it.
I am actually doing pretty ok really. Thanks. About a year ago, I started the D, took a new job, and moved across country. After a while and a bit of working with a MC, my W and I agreed to give it one last shot and agreed she would come out too. Though, in hindsight, the biggest change really occured in me. Previously, I had been ashamed to admit that I like and need sex. I had always cited "emotional" and "relationship" bonding type of reasons as to why a SL is important. I was ashamed of desiring sex for some reason.
The big change came in that I quit citing any reason other than, "I am mid 30s guy who likes sex." No more sugar-coating. No more explaining. As simplistic as that sounds, our whole relationship has now completely changed. She treats me with a respect I have never seen before. Best of all, we get along, ML about twice a week, and are enjoying living with each other maybe for the first time.
Don't get me wong. This M still has a ways to go. Though, I can happily work with this.
Any way, I thought I would drop by, see who is still around, and maybe try to help a few people with an outsider's perspective.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
Hey, a steady M is better than a rocky one any day. Good luck on the promotion!
