Gee Whiz, I thought getting my wife back in the first place was going to be the hard part, but since she first came back my life has gotten crazier than ever.
She came back on July 4th which was a Wednesday. By Sunday she was gone again, we went to court Monday and the divorce is still going on. So I went crazy, started talking to the other girl again (you can find all the details about that in my thread I posted the link to above. Wife goes crazy about me seeing this other girl again. So Wednesday the 11th the wife tells me she still wants to work on things, but is not ready to come all the way back home. I'm like ok, I agree to that. We agree that she will still talk to her boyfriend and I will still talk to my girlfriend, but we will not see them in person (terrible idea).
Friday comes around, wife is having a terrible day, says she feels awful for screwing up my life and says I should just go back to my girlfriend. So I do. Turns out my wife didnt actually mean for me to do it, she said she was just telling me thats how she felt, but I took it as her saying she was done with me yet again. I jumped the gun, she came all the way to where I live, picked me up, I went all the way to her house, met her family, stayed with her Friday night, and honestly was having a great time.
Wife goes crazy looking for me, she had this girl's cell phone number, so she starts calling her phone, texting her, wanting to know if I am with her. She calls again and I answer the phone on Saturday. She starts in crying about how she still loves me, asking me how can I do this to her. I get really hateful with her and tell her this is what you told me to do, you told me you were done with me yet again. She keeps me on the phone, and I just keep telling her over and over again that she has done all of this, and that I am just trying to move on with my life and I cannot take her destroying my life any longer.
My friend had to work a short shift that night, so I called my wife and asked her what the heck she is doing while I was waiting for my friend to get out of work. She cries her heart out to me, promises me the rest of her life, promises me that no matter what happens she will be with me forever and ever. So I take her back again, wife drives almost 2 hours to come and pick me up.
The rest of her life ended up lasting about 18 hours. That next day her OM keeps calling and calling her, she was just ignoring him. She told me no matter what he says she is going to tell him she cannot talk to him or have anything to do with him ever again. So he leaves her a text message saying that he was wondering if she wanted to see a movie with him, but nevermind since she was back with me. Well right after that she turns on me. Tells me the only reason she wanted me back was because she thought he was done with her, and now that he was asking her to do something she thinks she still has a chance, says she would rather be with him than me.
So I started talking online to this other girl again, telling her what was going on. Wife flips out again, and Monday she tells me she will text him and tell him that she really is done with him. She cant bring herself to do it.
Yesterday she went as far as to say that she was leaving me and our family just to have a chance with him. I told her this is your last time, you leave again and I will never have a damn thing to do with you ever again. She then starts acting nicer to me. Then somehow the subject of me being with the other girl comes up, she then starts getting physically ill and pukes her brains out, says just the thought of me being with her makes her sick. Then all of last night she is mad as hell at me. This drove me crazy, she was with this other guy for 3 and ahlf months having sex with him the whole time and lying to me about it. During the whole time she was with him I would have given anything for her to just come home but she was with him. I was with this other girl twice, and the only time I was ever with her was when I thought I had lost my wife forever, yet she was acting like she was the one that had been done wrong, says she is gonna have problems ever trusting me again, ect. It was enough to drive me wacko. Instead of flipping out and telling my wife to piss off and go back to the other girl yet again I decided once and for all I am gonna give my full attention to my wife, I decided that saving my family is the most imortant thing, and that no matter what I am not going to even start chatting online with this other girl again.
Then today something wonderful happened. My wife got a new job, better paying, and much easier on her. Even though this other guy no longer even works there, it is still where she had met him. She is going to be working the midnight shift, and told me herself that any chance she would ever have even trying with this other guy is gone because he works days and they would never even have a chance to see each other except for 1 or 2 days a week. She is still at home and has been since she came and got me Saturday night.
This whole thing is enough to drive me totally crazy, I thought if she would just come back and give me a chance things would be perfect and we would be happily ever after. But things have been harder than ever since she came back, and have gone crazier than I could have ever dreamed. I have to stay focused, not lose my cool, and just expect her to have her "crazy moments" of doubt.
