Nothin' like spending 3 days with WAS to detach!

[Dr.mom]

Thanks lac, every time I felt blue, I imagined all you had your arms around me, supporting me that weekend to be strong, to be noble, etc.

Yes, his reluctance to be there played a big part. He spent the first half of the weekend just "defending his need for a divorce". He started to open up and dialog during the second half.

Have not heard from him yet. I am "LRT" right now. HE can come forward if he wants to do the follow-up sessions. I am not dragging him anymore.

We did the weekend 3 hours away from home. I think he is not too eager to drive 6 hours in one day to do an afternoon session.

HOWEVER. We have a weekend starting locally in August. We can always go back and do their post-session. So he has a fall-back. They start in late August.

Time is my friend. Just letting him marinate for a while . . .while I go totally dark.

That weekend gave him a lot to process.

[NNP1965]

PG, have you heard anything from your H since the weekend?

[JMC]

PG - congrats on the Retrouvaille program. My W and I also attended and would agree it is a great program. People should be made to attend this weekend BEFORE getting married, in my opinion. Unfortunately for me, my W came out of that program and moved out the following week claiming that although I was her best friend, she 'did not have that feeling of love for me' that other spouses seemed to display and discuss at the end of the weekend. Good luck to you!

[Chuckwlane]

Hmmmmmmm My WAW and I talk every day, and have been talking more and more about our issues, and reasons we need to work this out. Which of course I enjoy. There is a Retrouvaille next month in Michigan that I asked my wife to attend. She is interested, but a little worried about time because she is also looking for a job, which at this point is her main priority. I have backed way off, and have tried to support her in concentrating on a job. She does not want to have to go away for one weekend and then have to leave for a 2 week training class. I on the other hand really want to save this marriage and think it would be very benificail.

Its hard not to ask how she feels about us, or talk about our relationship. I have changed to only talked about it when she brings it up.

I am hoping she still will be interested in the program, and will agree to go with me.

Congrats on getting the stregnth and realization for detatchment. Actually some days I think thats what I need as well.

[mkultra]

Isn't is so obtuse that someone is not willing to spend one weekend on something that could affect the rest of their married lives? Dr. Kreidman, "Light Your Fire" said it is better to spend $100 wining and dining your spouse away from the kids in a fancy hotel now, than spending $100 on marriage counselling later. Well, hindsight is 20/20 darn it so I warn all my friends before they get to my place.

[WCW]

ponygirl, calling on your professional advice of horse doc. I have a mare with suspected toxic poisoning from nightshade. Mega vet care since it started, looking for all ideas to help her recover. I can post more details, or could go to email too.

[Sara]

PonyGirl is away at a veterinary training for a few weeks. I don't know if she'll see your post. Sorry.

[WCW]

Thanks Sara, I thought I saw a post from her today but I've been confused before and even more so in dealing with my very sick mare.

[mkultra]

We miss you Pony!

[Dr.mom]

The Pony will be back in a day or two. Today is my 37th b-day. Have had the best week I have had in a long time. 2 more days of going out with friends, letting them show me a good time and rallying around me. May have a drink or two (or more). Can't type under the influence.

Trying to get a game plan for the mare. Nightshade is a new one for me, never dealt with it. Just trying to think of a de-tox regime I could prescribe. I do "alternative" holistic stuff too. Will try and right more tonigh.

Putting the party-shoes on as we speak.