And ya'll thought Arkansans ate only fried foods! We do get adventurous every once in a while! As far as the Chinese Dim-Sum...can't say I've tried that.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Oh well according to the book I am reading I do not “need” her to say anything. It is a preference. I would prefer her to acknowledge our anniversary but I DO NOT NEEDS IT...
Husband,
Sounds like you had a great time w/ son. I'm glad you got something out of the book. It really helped me understand the big picture. I still break down every so often but then I pick myself up and realise there's always tomorrow. I've started going out w/ women to lunch and it's really nice to be able to talk to them and see how nice they can be. Not to mention they are very pretty and smile a lot(smiling is something my wife has resolved not to do in my presence).
I am rooting for you and your W to get back together. Whatever happens, you sound like you'd have no problem finding another woman that would really appreciate you and give you the respect you deserve. Perhaps a red head? All of us LBS's deserve to be treated better than we have been. We just prefer to stay w/ our spouse if they permit it.
I think you'll find some other really good tips in that book. Especially the "agree w/ everything" technique. It's been helpful for me because the W wants the opposite of everything I want.It really throws a wrench in the works when what I want agrees w/ what she wants! Good luck!
ME: 39 ring on wife:38 ring off WAW/MLC son:17,11 dtr:9 mar:17yr Bomb4-27-07. EA/PA 2/07 with 22yr old. DBing 5-19-07 My story on the link below. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1069470&page=0#Post1069470
I've thought about it. It could be b/c we truly love them. It could be b/c we don't want to hurt our children. It could be b/c we are scared to be by ourselves. As the woman, I know it would be a lot harder to run out and find someone else, even if that was what I wanted, having 3 little boys in tow; whereas H would have no problems being the single, free Mr. Stud.
Are we somehow "getting off" on the drama? Could it be the fight that we don't want to lose? Could it be the challenge of seeing if we really are the better woman?
Who knows in each case what the reasons are.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I ask my myself that now more and more and I am starting to think maybe I dont want this M anymore until like sunday when D7 starts to cry herself to sleep wanting H back, "I want my daddy".
I am glad I am past the point of "trying to compete w/ OW". I feel like telling H that this is not a competion (this he would get off on in the beginning) & that he is not a prize!
I'm having a good day today so my thoughts are towards the positives. I think Part although a small part is Pride. Yes we love out S. (little less now but we still do). We love our families (a little more now). But what gets s me down is my pride as a male. Here some low class guy comes along and uses my wife. This worthless married man takes something from me. (Yes I know he could not have done it unless my wife gave it to him. But He had no morals. He hurt his wife even though she may not know it. So part of it for me is pride. But I am finding the less worth I find in my Wife the less it means to me that he is using her. I am less mad at him and I more want to mess with him. I would like to call him and ask him how the fishing is in Washington. And tell him I have some great pictures of him with my Wife and if there is any chance I can get some Nude pictures of his wife to complete my set. I mean I would not be mean I would just like to call him to say HI…..
Husband
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
