I haven't posted for awhile...the husband is living w/his GF and the kids met her yesterday. I didn't ask them to be spies but they came home full of information. She had bought them a bunch of gifts and such. Ticked me off that they went to a roller rink for the afternoon (that was our thing to do on rainy day!) Gifts for the kids, hugging them and then dad kissing his GF in front of the kids...I am not handling it too well. The kids liked her...childish of me but I wanted them to hate her. I used to be optimistic but there is no way the H will ever come back. I guess today is the day I throw in the towel. M - 12 years S - 1/21/07 H - 42 W - 43
Hey, you do not have to throw in the towel. If you were DBing you wern't pursuing him anyways, right? Just keep up living your life to the fullest. He probably is making a huge mistake that will cost him a lot, but it is up to you to be the best you can. I had a weird time meeting my Dad's new girlfriend. They were actually married and he lied about that for years. I acted polite and thought I liked her but it is so confusing. Be there for your kids, but more importantly, model happiness and grace. You can do it. He might come back. Might not. You mentioned he let himself go and he was not very successful. Men supposedly gravitate to people that make them feel better about themselves. Even if that means someone with really low self esteem. That is why I think so many OP seem to have issues with self esteem. You might also meet someone new. Just don't talk bad about him out there, just in here!
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Thanks for the advice - I have been very careful not to bad mouth him. (only to my sister) I just feel really lost and I know I need to pull myself out this funk...the kids certainly don't need to see mom crying all the time.
