my crazy mess

[christarn]

I wish no news was good news, but unfortunatley not. H and I really havent had much interaction lately. So I have just been keeping myself busy with work and hanging out with friends. Wish I had something great to report! Hope all is well with everybody else

[dadtotwo]

christarn,

May I impose on your thread and ask you to review my sitch and give me your take from a WAW/Woman's perspective? I am facing divorce mediation that my W cannot get done fast enough.

Thanks so much

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1158379&page=9#Post1158379

[christarn]

marky b...no problem hijacking my thread!!! I found one of your threads, but it was locked, do you have a current thread running, if so what is the name...help me find you, and I will be glad to lend you some insight!

[dadtotwo]

Thanks christarn,

Try this:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1228875&page=7#Post1228875

markyb

[dadtotwo]

christarn,,
I have a question for you:

When you decided to walk away from your H, did you make it a point to be as angry with him as possible??

I am asking since I am dealing with my W whom is so angry it feels like she just wants to be as angry as she can and lokk at me as some inhuman monster.

[Bakit Ngayon Pa]

Hi Christa,

Just checking in to say hello. Hope all is well with you.

Keep us posted.

[christarn]

BNP...well things are ok, H has sent a few texts, nothing to get too excited about. I thought he was going to meet up with me and some of my family sat. night, as we were at a bar in my home town (i moved 20 miles away when I walked out)but he didn't. Which was ok, I ended up having a good time with my family. It's rather strange, because ever since I have been back from Ireland he has been extremely distant. I don't really get it. But I guess with all of us around here, you take two steps forward and about ten back sometimes! So for now, I am just trying to lay low. I'm not sure about anyone else around here, but I'm really dreading Christmas. My birthday also falls close to Christmas. It will be the first in ten years I will be with out him...just not really feeling holidayish this year. But I guess sometimes, you just have to pull the bootstraps up and go with it! Thanks for checking in on me! hugs, Christa

[micoms]

Christa,

Haven't seen you post lately, hopefully it's because of good things. If so come back and give us an update.

Mike

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Hi Christa,

I just wanted to say a quick hello. You responded to my post "role reversal" since we had very similar situations. How are things in your situation? No change in mine, but my DB coach is tweeking my approach. Have you talked to a coach? It has been helpful to me since my situation is different than the perspective taken in DB and DR. Hope all is well and Merry Christmas.

[christarn]

Just an update on my sitch. H and I have spent a little time together in the past few weeks. Nothing I want to read into or get excited about. He had 2 lab pups given to him, so I have been trying to help him out with them. He also got a full time job with a local electrical contractor (YEAH!!) first steady job in a year! It should last a year or so. (he's a union electrician, so work comes and goes) He invited me over Christmas evening. We hung out and had some drinks. It was fun, until I said something that came out wrong, which in turn lead into an argument (not good, when mixed with alcohol!) However, I did stay, and apologized the next morning, he agreed, and understood what I was trying to say.

The day after Christmas I took the pups to the vet for him, and stayed over to have dinner. That was really nice. I also gave him a couple small Christmas gifts. A t-shirt and sweatshirt I had picked up from harley in Ireland, he loved them. I felt bad for the guy, those were the only Christmas gifts he had received. So I think even though he did not admit it, it felt good, as he thanked me numerous times. We just hung out chatted a bit about the R/M, nothing too major, and I spent the night again. All in all, this was a good day/night. Lots of laughs, good conversation, and good food! I was sad to see it end.

So now the fun begins, what will happen next? Will he call or text sometime soon? Oh the anxiety of the waiting game!! Hope all is well with everybody else out there, and everyone had a blessed holiday!

Cheers to a happy and blessed 2008!