Well it is CW's birthday next Saturday. I am going to be working at a Conference all week so the lads and I picked it out this past week. We got an Italian Charm bracelet for her. I got it together and got a card from the boys and one from me. I dropped it off tonight and told then to tell her that she had to wait to open it.
It is a huge 180 that I am prepared.
The charms we picked for the bracelet to start are:A Swedish flag, a ruby heart (her birth stone), a MOM in a heart, "God Loves You", and a pink ribbon. In my card, I explained why we picked each of them. I stayed away from horribly mushy. Just what I would call sweet. I did sign it Love MC.
She called tonight. I kidded her about openning it early. She said she wasn't going to. I also told her not to be grilling the boys for clues. S6 would crack like an egg. She said that the only thing she asked was if it was an "appropriate" gift from them. I assured her it was an appropriate gift from them and me. I think the jewelry box worried her.
Yap yap yap. Smiling and waving. What else can I do?????
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
A better day today? I am not sure what was differant other than I was busy at work all day. S15 came with to help with set up with a conference we are running. I am going to be staying at the conference all week so today is the last day I will see S6 for the week. (S15 will be helping off and on this with me.) He called CW this afternoon and asked her if her and S6 wanted to join us for dinner this evening. She did and we had dinner together, before going our seperate ways. I really have to fight the urges to ovcer pursue and use this week to back off. I will have some phone contact to talk to S6 but I am hoping to keep it to that. I feel like one second things are going well and a second later not. It is so hard for me to accept the babysteps.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
One more little tidbit for the day. This morning, I met them at church. We have gone to a new church the last 3 weeks. As the seervice started, CW and S15 were having "words". The next thing I know, he is crying. They walked out a minute later and came back about 10 minutes later. I never asked what it was about. When we left, S15 came with me. I asked him what the problem was and he teared up again and asked him what the problem was. He said that he was upset about switching churches. He is quite connected at the old one. He then told me that last week CW told him that the reason was that her dad had told people at church some things..... I let it drop. She must feel nice knowing this.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
MC, I agree at this time the kids do need to be thought about. It's so hard on them and the WAS seem to be so oblivious to that. Maybe you could alternate Sundays with CW and take your sons to the old church every other sunday or maybe if you have night services take them to that.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I am ok HB, thanks for asking. Took a week off as I was way busy at work last week. As far as the church thing from back a few posts goes, I am most fearful of someone with a big mouth saying something to S15. FIL thought it was his business to tell everyone that the seperation was duue to adultery.
Anyway, on to new happenings. I was gone to a hotel all last week for work. I limited my talks with CW to kid related stuff. Suddenly, she started asking me stuff about my day etc.
We had arranged to go out for pizza last night. When she called about 5, she told me that a co-worker had called and invited her to a home interiors stuff party. I asked if she was going to go, and she said, "I don't want you to get mad by cancelling." It was in jest and I told her to go if she wanted. She said that she didn't want to go to the party. I picked her up and we had a very nice pizza at a true pizza place (sorry pizza hut, you suck). We talked about a lot of stuff, no serious R stuff though. Am I supposed to initiate that? The closest we got was a church comment when she said that she liked the church we were trying out, but I could decide for myself. It seems to me that if she was done with me, she wouldn't want me there.
After dinner, we stopped for a drink and then I brought her home. On the way, she said, "I hope S6 wants to go for a scooter ride." Meaning that she was going for a walk. I was a little relaxed from the beer and said that I would go if he didn't want to....then added, I would go no matter what. I ran home to change shoes and we had a very nice walk. Again, no R talk, but talk none the less. No future stuff, which isn't surprising, but hurtful. No non future stuff either. We joked around and horsed around teasing each other. When I dropped them off I gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
Today CW and S15 leave for a week long church trip out of state. I will actually miss them. We have been getting along better, so I hope I don't over due it and call too much.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
