It is such a friggin' script. He uses words like "FISHING" and "I am giving you a day off from the kids." It is so weird. I really do not even snoop or act suspicious. If anything, I have been accused of not being jealous enough. It is just not my style. To be honest, it really feels like being married to a man on the down low. He is a perfect gentleman, we respect and enjoy each other's company. We are best friends. he just plays for the other side. I am still not saying he is gay, it would just explain so much!!!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
He actually said it does not matter what I do now because I am only trying to save a marriage that is dead. No matter what I do, he has decided it is too late!
Blah, blah, blah and your mama wears Army boots. Who's he trying to convince: you or him?
Go to the MLC board and read, read, read. Read Smurf's MLC resources. Read EVERYTHING Snodderly has posted.
Then come back here and tell me that you found the script your H is reading from.
I think you're in for a surprise...
David
THANK YOU!!! So this is not some weird alien nightmare. It has a name! The mysterious ailment has been diagnosed. Why am I so happy about this? It is as if I had a tumor and every doctor just scratched their heads and finally I find a doctor that says,"Yes, I know what you have. It has a name. MLCitis. Too bad we have no cure for it, but we can try to make you comfortable while you suffer from the side effects of denial, depression, and self centeredness, and acceptance."
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Funny you should mention alien. It's as though the real them was kidnapped by aliens and this weird creature was left in their place. Go to http://www.midlife.com. Get 'Men in Midlife Crisis' By Jim Conway. I have personally counselled with Jim, had lunch with him in March. He has researched this 'malady' for 30 years. Maybe get involved in the chat room there. The are are many wise people there, many with restored mariages. They can help you through. You'll see me there on occasion, same screen name.
God Bless you!
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
Really? We have a home but my mother gave us the down payment. She said if he tried anything she would ask for half of it back as a loan. He said he would never try to take anything, but we have all heard that one before! My mother also gave him a retirement package when they became business partners. That is the tricky part. My mom was about to give him the family business and another home. She said my H was like her son. Now she says it is like he is no longer a part of our family. My mom is this hard core business woman and this ordeal has brought her to tears. She truly feels like she has lost a son.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Tamashii, thank you for introducing me to the wonderful world of MLC. I guess I am the first one of my friends to go through it. I was scratching my head because my H did not buy a sport car or start gambling, but I guess a MLC can come about in different forms.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Hey mkultra - this isn't related to your sitch but just curious if you're in northern or southern CA?? I'm near Sacramento. If you're somewhere close by thought it might be fun to do some GALing together! You can email me if you want - nikkib@surewest.net
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hey Nikki I just got your note. We are also Central NorCal. I go up to Sacto quite a bit as I have family up there. I love Leatherby's! How do you GAL? I am trying to go out more with my friends. I have put the word out that I am willing to be a travel partner. My D5 asked if she could come with me and I promised I would take her in the next three years. My H sounded so interested like that was the life he always wanted, too. He acts like we will be together in the future all the time. Why not now? Darn MLC!!!!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
