Sounds like you're keeping busy, how is your H driving to get the car and then driving it back? Trailer? How much painting you doing? My wife is great at painting and seems to love it, not me, I'd rather pound nails or hang sheetrock, anything but paint! Well with a sprayer in a new house when you can just "go to town" painting it isn't too bad, but having to mask and drape and keep from making a mess it just gets too frustrating!
Nice to hear that he called you "pretty girl" and hey, at least you have the ML in common What did you do back when you dated for fun? Bowling? Playing pool? Go to the movies? There must be something that you did together that would still be a great way to spend time together.
Hi ST - hooray for compliments and for getting so much done, that is great!! That color may match things better than you think once you try out some things in the room. Sounds like a neat color.
Not to be a downer but be careful on that eBay thing. I've been on there a long time as both a buyer and seller and have seen stuff like this get ugly sometimes. You might get lucky and get an understanding seller, but technically you're obligated to get the pictures/info before you bid, and your bid is a contract. I've heard of cases where the seller sued for breach of contract. So... hopefully he'll be cool about it but just be careful there! Depending on his response you might even offer to refund his listing fees or something. He'll get his final value fee back if he reports you guys for the nonpayment, but will still be out his listing fee (I think it's $50 or $100 for vehicles, can't remember as it's been awhile since I sold one).
Thanks for asking on my fish! I'm down to 2 now but they seem to be doing pretty well. It's weird because the water test shows high nitrites, but the ammonia level is fine... thought those kind of went hand in hand. I keep doing large water changes and it seems to be helping. They look totally fine and are as active as ever, so that's good. I found out that ghost shrimp and goldfish don't get along though. Well, the goldfish liked the ghost shrimp just fine - but as dinner, not as tank buddies! Oops.
Hmmm we'll have to think of some good ideas for you and your H to get out and have some fun together. I like JDK's idea, what did you do for fun when you first met??
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hmmm we'll have to think of some good ideas for you and your H to get out and have some fun together. I like JDK's idea, what did you do for fun when you first met??
JDK- H rented a car. however he failed to notice the 30 cents a mile rule! he dropped car off and it was 100 more than he thought! But they took like 70 bucks off so I told him good job! ya, I'm sick of painting myself now! But s3's room looks cool. I painted it yellow on the top half and ceiling, and black chalkboard paint on the bottom half. Then he'll be able to draw with chalk! Kinda scary, but I think I can handle it.
the ML thing is definitely a good common thing. I'm not your normal woman, or the women you hear about that complain with headaches, or not now honey stuff. I'd probably take it whenever I could get it! But then again, maybe if I had a guy who wanted it every second, I'd get tired of it.?..... NAH!
Before when we dated? um. that's where the bad part comes in. We hardly really dated. We hung out a lot at his grandparents where he lived. He didn't have a car or job back then (ya, it was kinda pathetic, but I always seemed to get those types of guys) and we watched tv most the time. Then stupid me caves in to pressure and ends up ML when I was going to wait till M. I was 24 then. So after meeting him in June I was pregnant that Oct. AND he had already moved to his moms in O.K. Very messed up. So, that's why I had such a hard time figuring out about my sitch, and I just left it all up to God. I could go on and on about this, but I better stop now! I'll try to think of some things though.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Nikki- Hello! I know the ebay thing is kinda risky. I keep trying to tell H to not make the guy angry. In my opinion we do have recourse because he changed the car after taking the pictures and didn't mention it until we won the auction. Then we asked for more pictures to make sure how it looked, and the back bumper he fixed looked okay, but then we got a better look at the dent he mentions and it looked way worse than he told us on the phone, plus the fact that the front bumber had two cracks in it, almost like someone tried to fix it. So hopefully it will go okay. Thanks a bunch for the fee advice. He already reported as nonpayment, and I knew about that, but not how much the listing would be. Thought it would depend on how much his starting bid was.
Hey, one of my cool fish died today. It was a bolivian Ram. Not sure what happened either. I have kinda neglected it a little though, so water could be bad, but I change it monthly. It's a big tank.
Ammonia is from the waste or anything that dies, like plants or fish. Then the bacteria in the tank will turn Ammonia into Nitrites. Then another type of bacteria will turn the Nitrites into Nitrates. This is called cycling. you have all the bacteria available (they're everywhere) but they are dormant until there is enough "food" for them. So when the Ammonia goes up, the bacteria that "eats" it will start "waking up". Then when the Nitrites go up, the other bacteria will "wake up", and so on. Nitrates are not toxic to fish unless it gets up to around 40, kinda depends on the types of fish. Hope that helps! Sorry about your ghost shrimp! I have one myself but he hides for weeks at a time.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
C_M- that would actually be very cool. But H would NEVER EVER go for that. He will hardly take me dancing to the clubs as it is. I think he's taken me like 3 times since M? He dances great, but just not something he likes to do I guess.
But, H did go rollerblading a couple times. Maybe I can talk him into doing that again?
Having a baby sitter would be another thing we would need though. It sucks not having family nearby.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
okay, mentioned the rollerblading, but H said not now...it is pretty hot now, forgot about that. We do have a LasVegas trip coming up. oh ya Nikki, forgot to answer your question about that. or if there was a question. I've been there so many times before, my grandad lived there, so it's not anything special to me. gambling is definitely not something I really care about, but I know my H likes it. He's pretty good about not wasting his money away. We actually went to a place about 5 min away from our house(there's a lot of Indian reservations in OK, so there are a few casinos) and my H won about 90 bucks, so that was cool. I usually take 10-20 to spend on gambling and that's it. pretty much consider it my costs to drink since you get the alchohol for free. So I at least feel like I'm getting my moneys worth. Las Vegas is good for that. It kills me how people can just waste their lives at the machines, and their money. It's really sad.
Oh, and H is planning on doing a day of sightseeing, the grand canyon and that lava place you told me about Nikki. hopefully they're not in totally opposite locations! So very cool that H membered I talked about it. And he rented a pt cruiser convertible....so that will be fun going down the strip in it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
okay. This week is gonna be a slow week. I just learned of horrible news about a 3rd cousin of mine. Very aweful story. I won't get into everything, but it's a homicide-suicide thing. I didn't know him, but I know most of the rest of the family. It's so incredibly messed up, and I feel so bad for the family. I feel bad for both sides of course, but since I know the ones that had their son be the one killing and then committing suicide, I feel bad for them because they have lost a son, and will also be the focus of a lot of hate from other people I imagine. I think I would rather lose my child as a victim, than have my child make someone else's child a victim.
ug. i don't even know what else to say.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
The horrible news is certainly an understatement, sorry to hear about it. I agree that as tragic as losing a child as a victim, losing a child along with your child making other people's children victims would be unimaginable to deal with.
When you headed to Vegas again, I keep forgetting? I saw you mentioned the rollerblading to your H, did you actually mention going out dancing? Any events you can go to besides going to a club to provide the opportunity to dance with him? Anywhere you can just go for a nice long walk, hike, bike ride, sit and watch the sunset, sit and watch a ballgame, something?
How did the car turn out or did I miss your posts and need to go back looking for them?
we will be in Vegas around the labor day holiday, about 5 days.
H has never been a "romantic" type guy, the walks, bike rides, sit, blah blah. but the ballgame could be an idea. we really need to start having a date night or something, but it's always me arranging everything and I just get tired of doing that sometimes.
The car seems pretty good. It does have the normal wear and tear of minor scratches and such, but overall I think we got a really good deal. the other guy from ebay wasn't exactly happy, but he's just filed for nonpayment and that's all we've heard. He really didn't list it properly so I think it's his fault.
thanks and you take care too.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
What did you do back when you dated for fun? Bowling? Playing pool? Go to the movies? There must be something that you did together that would still be a great way to spend time together.
