I am so sorry for your pain. I know it had to have hurt to see that. I know I felt like I had been kicked in the gut when I read my husband's profile. He said he was looking for wild and noncommited sex with a new woman. The only reason I knew there was contact with one woman there was because I had installed a keylogger. He had an e-mail account that I never knew about. But found out password and all because of the keylogger.
Even if you have a LD it doesn't give your husband any excuse for posting naked pictures of himself on an internet site. You know also when I found out my husband was on that site I looked around to see what it was about. I was surprised at how real that site was. Because I seen 3 guys on that site who also had reveling pictures of themselves. I have seen them many times with living in a small town. One of the guys is also married and has children that goes to my son's school.
Thank you...im much better these days. No it wasn't right what he did and he knows it. He was embarassed. Oh well..
Yes that site is very real. He was only a regular member which means he couldn't email anyone or vice versa, I checked into it before I told him I knew so i could figure it out.
I hope he is not doing anything anymore. I like to hope so. Like I said, it would devaste me if he was and I would not be able to go through that again. What makes me even more made is that I am completely faithful to him, I don't care to look or think about any other men, I just don't care. I am in content with what I have and my family is the most important thing to me.
I hope you get some answers soon, I will send some good vibes your way.
Blessings~
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
My husband was a regular free member also. People can e-mail there into your free account. That is where he got an e-mail address. The girl actually gave it to him.
Thanks for the good vibes.
I just have a gut feeling something isn't right. Either that or I am just in a bad place and able to trust my husband after that dating site. But on his cellphone there was this number he called. It is a girl he works with that is married. The call didn't go through because it was only for a minute on the log. But why would a married man be calling a woman who at 11:40 at night when he at work and not able to talk. I do tend on confronting him about this. Or maybe I shouldn't and just keep watching.
It just doesn't make any sense. A man who has not only LD. But also get this ED troubles. Could he possibly be looking into having an affair?! MAn this just doesn't make sense. You would think that would be the last thing I would ever have to worry about. With those two things combined.
I did write my husband a letter. It was just easier this way. That way I didn't cry and think my emotions and words out carefully. I at least did confess about the flirting. How him pushing me away makes me feel vulnerable. How him never showing me any attention makes me start thinking about looking elsewhere. I told him it didn't excuse it. I know it's wrong. But I let him know I am really hurting and really messed up right now.
Him he hasn't mentioned a thing. Mind you he has been working long hours since the letter. But he hasn't said one word about it or tried to call me or anything. Only a guess here. But am willing to bet he comes home and MAYBE wants to make love. He thinks if he does that he never has to face anything ond that sex makes it all better. Well, I am not up for that. I don't feel connected to him at all.
How long will you wait before you actually try to discuss it with him. I understand writing him a letter and getting it all out, but if he isn't going to talk to you about it, how long can you allow it to be ignored? You two are going to need to start communicating so that you can get the connection back, don't you think? Good luck!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Im sorry about the cell phone thing.. you definately have to check that one out. And writing the letter to him is great. You have to find out the truth for your own sanity. With my h cell phone, I in in control of it, meaning I have the password to get messages and I get the bills, and its in my name, so I see that stuff every month. I just hope that this is the route neither of our H has gone.
Oh, My heart goes out to you. Let me know how you are making out.
Im thinking of you.
Blessings~
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hon - letters are great but they canbe ignored like right now. You will eventually have to ask for feedback. Don't let too much time go by. The longer you wait the more stilted and artificial the communication will feel.
