My exW has picked up a bunch of stuff from me in the past. She has always requested I leave it on the back porch. I find this rather odd; it seems like she wants to avoid seeing me. I know I should not be analyzing this; however, I am. To me, it seems like she is afraid seeing me will stir up some emotions. If she is really “over it” what is the big deal? Should I just put the things out? Should I at least make her knock on the door?
She asked me to leave a heavy item which I know she cannot lift. Asked her if she will be able to lift it to see what her answer is.
Also, my son has been very sick and I have been posting and corresponding with a prayer list she is on. So, she knows my son is sick. Yet, I have not heard a peep from her. She has not even bothered to send an e-mail. What gives?
I appreciate any insight or comments.
Thanks,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
oh goodness I know it is hard. you just have to keep detaching and try not to wonder what she is thinking. I know how hard it is believe me, but it is going to make you crazy. Hang in there.
Don't read to much into the a/c thing. It will just eat you alive. Let it be.
Focus on your son and yourself for now.
We talk about taking baby steps, you almost have to completely stop walking until she gets curious again.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
oh goodness I know it is hard. you just have to keep detaching and try not to wonder what she is thinking. I know how hard it is believe me, but it is going to make you crazy. Hang in there.
FaithLOVEHope,
So, you think I should just put it on the porch and forget about it?
The really tough part is I really thought I knew and loved this woman. She has turned into something my family and her family does not recognize. My exBIL Bill said, "She has a lot of problems."
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I think she is for now. There is one thing I think I never mentioned before. She and I dated and I broke up with her. I ended up getting married. During that time, she and I still talked occasionally. It just so happened I was in town one night and called her. She informed me she was going to get married the next day. I tried to talk to her about us. She said it was over. Before she hung up, I said, "It will never be over." Eighteen months later, she called me in the middle of the night.... You never know.
I am pretty confident she will eventually snap out of it. However, who knows where I will be or who I will be with. Something tells me when I finish all of my classes, pass my professional certifications and am making over $220K, she will be very interested... Then, again, so will a lot of other women.
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 06/21/0704:39 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
YES! She has revised everything in our relationship, said she was unhappy for years, said she needed to "find" herself and what she likes........ She is 36.
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
