My W (together 13+ yrs, married 10) moved out in mid-Feb (moved in with her sister). We are very civil and have had several intimate encounters, including overnight stays. We close on our house this Friday. Just wondering how many of you are separated and have actually sold your former shared residence, meaning that both of you now live in two entirely different locations from where you once lived together. I would welcome a sincere reconciliation, but feel the chances may be slim now that our house we shared is no longer.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
I haven't sold mine. I may be in the process of getting it ready to be sold. The W said she no longer wants to live here.
The chances are not slim for reconciliation because you have sold the house. You can look at it as a new beginning. Starting fresh from the ground up. As long as you two have been civil and are still "seeing" each other, there is a chance.
The chances are not slim for reconciliation because you have sold the house. You can look at it as a new beginning. Starting fresh from the ground up. As long as you two have been civil and are still "seeing" each other, there is a chance.
I think you're right but mine is for sale and I'm torn over it. I love the house and want to keep the connection with my W. However, finding out the neighbor has been a negative influence makes me think the sale would be a blessing. Also, getting out of debt is a huge deal fr my W, so it would be good for that.
And, I think it holds bad memories for us, and we can get rid of those too. I don't know, it's tough, it's such a nice house and I love it, but I love my W more - so if she wants to sell it, it'll get sold.
Don't let it get you down, it'll be OK, a house is just an object, selling it doesn't have much determination on the happiness of your marriage, if any at all.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Been separated for over 2 years but no talk of selling the house since the first couple of months that H left. He doesn't want to sell. Lucky me. I live in it and he pays the mortgage payment.
In the coming weeks I am going to start the process of gutting our house of our stuff. I love this house, but with taxes going thru the roof, utilities getting higher and higher, there is no way possible I would afford it on my own. My wife is suppose to start coming over everyday packing up her stuff little by little. I'm gonna get a storage place and put all my stuff that I still want in there. Then W and I are putting everything else in a everything must go garage sale. Then I am doing all the little repairs that need done to the house, painting it, and putting it on the market.
She is already living at her mom's, I am gonna stay with my parents until the house sales. I need a new vehicle very badly too. So the money I make off the selling the house I will get myself out of debt, buy myself a car, and pay cash for a little trailor or something for the time being.
