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Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
There is no try.

There is do or do not.

This is my favorite yoda quote. I always told H this when he would say "I'll try" about something easy. He hated it.

When we were last at the C, she said this quote in response to H saying his "I'll try" statement. I loved it!


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I wasn't even thinking that hombre. I know what you meant. You have to speak and feel with your heart at all times.

You and your heart deserve that. To intellectualize things only sets us back and doesn't let us go through the process we need to go through. We need to feel and be felt for it to be real.

I think I told you once that when I would speak to groups about my past experiences I would pause before I spoke and move my "thoughts" to my heart..... I would then speak and not remember a thing I said, but people would tell me it was good. I didn't remember because I wasn't thinking about what I was saying. I was letting it come from inside.

You need to take this trip and "feel" it. Let it become part of you and if she wishes to join you, then that will be a decision you will have to make.....but make that decision from your heart and not your head!

Lies come from our head.... The truth comes from our heart!


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ya, but pack the condoms just in case the other part gets to do some talking too.

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Quote:

Lies come from our head.... The truth comes from our heart!


Wow. I think I have a new favorite quote. That is awesome.



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Thank you J3B..... You have some beauties yourself!


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Well Lissie, 1 more day......

Tomorrow the adventure begins. It will be an interesting 9 days.

Sleep is getting a little more difficult. I am feeling confident that I will handle myself well, but my mind still is going 100 miles per hour.

I was thinking this morning that spending 9 days with an MLCer will be quite the challenge. However, I also think if I can make it through this is it will be kind of like earning your black belt.

She Instant messaged me last night and asked me if I was getting excited yet. I said yes and asked if she was getting excited about it.

She told me she can hardly sleep and she can't wait. She is so excited about going and wants Friday to be here already.

I told her I was getting those anxious butterflies and she told me to relax, everything was going to be just fine.

We chatted for a bit about some last minute details and stuff. It was nice, she is certainly trying to make me feel more comfortable about spending time together.

So on we go, I will enjoy it, no matter what.


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Och ay the nu .And I hope there will be an abundance of
"Brare braw moonlicht nicht tonicht ." for you both .
I know lots of people on this site will be rooting for you and prayers go with you
Have a wonderful time . Just looking at the mountains will lift your spirits any day!


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Good Morning Ian. I am so happy that your wait is almost over for your trip. I hope you have a wonderful time.











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Hey man - just dropping in to wish you fair winds and following seas on your trip-

I really have a lot of respect for you for squaring up and facing this thing head on. It takes real character to do that, to say..."f-ck the rest of it, I'm going to go on this trip and I'm going to enjoy myself and have a great time." Don't know if I could do that myself, but it's really something to behold.

Best of luck and good wishes for this trip to be everything you want it to be. For you AND Carrie. Enjoy yourself and be careful with that kilt if it gets windy out...

Kev


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