I am feeling a little better now, but let me explain. I will try not to make it long.
A week ago Friday, H, myself, and the kids went to a friend of h's house for a barbecue. His friend's cousin and other friend's were there. His cousin was there w/out his wife. Everyone was having a nice time. Late into the evening and now not wanting to drive since we were all drinking, my h went in and laid down. His friend's cousin had started making passes at me. Everyone was sleeping and I kept fielding them and nothing really happened. He claimed my h's friend sensed there was a connection between us so he was sleeping in the chair in the living room where I we where on separate to couchs. I know I was a quick acting after drinking, as I should have been it was like I was clueless. My oldest son was up and kept moving around, which also helped, but even though I feel like I did something wrong.All last weekend I kept thinking H's friend would call and say something, then I thought no cause it was his cousin. I thought I should tell h, but why open a can of worms.I know I did alot of talking(alcohol) and am hoping nothing comes back to haunt me. I just don't want to ruin my h's relationship with his friend either. I don't even know if he really thought anything like his cousin said, if so you think he would have said something to me or at least his cousin about leaving it alone.
Every day that went by I was feeling maybe it wasn't such a big deal and if h said something I would just tell him it was the alcohol and nothing happened, I didn't tell him cause it was his friend's cousin and hope it would blow over. Now 2 days ago h was drinking at our friend's house and on the way home he was rambling and in the middle of me talking he said,"You like *'s cousin." I just ignored him and kept on what I was saying. Now I don't know if he suspects something or he was just fishing.I know he hasn't talked to the guy since his cell phone updates the time and date and his number still shows last contact before we went that night.
I think I should just leave it pass and hope it will never come up again. Any thoughts?
Afraid, You've given us bits and pieces, but I suspect he's heard something about that night.
I wouldn't address the matter with him when he's drinking because he will blow it all out of proportion and want to argue with you about it. You know that you can't rationalize with a drunk or someone high on drugs. Now, if he should raise the issue when he's sober, that would be a different story and I would come clean and tell him exactly what happened and leave nothing to the imagination. Until that time arises, leave it be. You don't need to have any more crap on your plate right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know it sounds a little confusing. On my part I know I said some things that I didn't really explain about my h. Things that were probably bother me over the last 2 years. I didn't really elaborate so it probably didn't make sense to anyone but me. The cousin had a various times tried to kiss me and I kept trying to avoid it, but the first time I was caught by surprise. His friend called yesterday. I don't think he will say anything, since he probably doesn't know anything- well nothing happened. I think I just feel bad cause I didn't tell him anything at all.
Like I said maybe it is nothing and I am worried about nothing.
When in doubt, do nothing. Sit quietly and the answers will come to you. It's obvious that this is bothering you right now. Do you have a priest or minister you can talk to? What about a really close friend?
It will be okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I just needed someone to tell me I was doing the right thing to not say anything. I was just worried(I always worry about everything)that if he suspected something happened and I didn't say anything everything would come crashing down later. I don't think anyone said anything to him. I mean I would think if he thought something really happened he would confront me. They were teasing me about something the next day and I said I didn't remembet saying it and I told my h I hope I didn't do anything stupid I didn't remember like dancing on a table. I knew I hadn't. He said don't worry you were fine, which leads me to believe he didn't think anything.
I am assuming he was fishing, feeling down when he made the you like the cousin comment not really thinking anything. When I had been talking to him(cousin) that night h didn't seem to care. He goes in and out of accusing me of not loving him when he is feeling down or sorry for himself. I don't think I do anything that makes him feel this way. SO I will just let it go and like suggested.
