For any newbies to DB, I want to encourage you to press forward and keep on walking out of the pit....your spouses ARE worth it! Some who lose hope here will try to tell you that your chances are slim....I don't believe that for a second....if YOU keep walking it out. That is not to say that EVERY M will be restored...we may never know what God's bigger purpose is in those....but, I think far too many fail because the LBS gave up too early. I want to encourage you to keep moving forward even when it feels like you cannot. The blessings on the other side of the mountain of pain are worth every tear!
Thank you for saying this, and thanks for some encouraging words. Even if I am not a newbie.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FH, still standing. Not to make a point but simply because I feel that it is what He wants me to do for the time being. It is challenging but I feel is rewarding. I dont know if that makes sense but I believe that, in time, the choices I have made (not always consistent) will have a positive impact on my children and hopefully others. It has already been something that I feel has strengthened me.
Thanks for what you share because it is important to this "newbie".
FIB, buddy (and I sincerely mean buddy or brother), dont let anger be your guiding force. You are important to me and others here.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
Not angry MMF...just trying not to get arrested on false charges...keeping my phone from being stolen...and not having my kids yanked from my arms in front of teachers and parents. Thanks for the support. Actually, I am proud that I don't show her anger NOR do I do the same to her. Now THAT is power DB'ing.
Agreed...no more sour posts on a healthy thread and successful marriage saver.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;