oh my W is notorious for that saying. i sooooo hate it. Read the book. Calm down. Focus.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
It basically means deal with it. Or it's a matter of fact. It's a way for people to blow off any discussion about the subject.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
It's a "nice" way of telling YOU to accept it and go on because they can't or won't do anything to change the situation. You know implying they are powerless over it all. Grr...
My wife says it to people at work all the time and has joked with me about it. But now we are in this situation she doesn't dare say that to me.
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If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
ok here it is.... weve had many problems in our marriage many are due to accusations of constant cheating. for years i have been the one in our family to do all of the work . she says " im here, isnt that enough!" NO! 19 years ago we saparated & i started seeing someone else, her ex boyfriends sister saw us together and reported it to her. from there ups and downs. we both beat eachother up for years about it.her attitude got so bitter that i warned her if she didnt change she would regret it cuz one day i might find someone else. i did. i told her that i continuously warned her to fight and help fix us and she didnt.i moved in with the O W. i so regretted it. although the OW was everything i could ever have dreamed of,except it wasnt from the one my heart needed it from. i came home,no changes.i left 5 times then returned hoping thing would change. she says "you keep leaving me for her " and in a moment of anger i told her "NO! i keep leaving her for you." i have always truely loved my wife. she just had a hard time returning the favor. ive since been home for 4 months, she moved out 3.5 mmonths ago. nothig i do seens good enough for her. i dont know what im doing wrong.
BEGGING!!! CRYING IN PRAYER !!!BEGGING GOD !!!. then ow does he work ?
Crying in prayer. OK - that's not a bad thing.
Begging...again.....God is not Santa Clause. He doesn't drop off presents because you want them. He does things #1 - in HIS time and because #2 - He has a plan for you.
Your job now is to figure out yourself. What went wrong on your end with your M? Did you two seek counseling? What do you think your wife needed from you that she didn't get? How do you think she felt if for 19 years (is that right) you bounced back and forth between her and another woman?
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
