Sashaying thru Seperation IV

[mcojh]

Curses, Locked again.

Anyway, strange is going to be my new middle name.

Yesterday evening, I took S6 hunting with me, CW took S15 ro her sisters for the weekend. It is an hour drive, so I told her to leave me a message so I know she made it back to town safe (her van is 10 yrs old and has 175K on it.) When she was leaving, she asked me if I was going to church today. An odd question as I normally go if I am not working.

She reminded me that the start was differant as this is the 1st Sunday of of the summer schedule. She then asked again if I was going. I finally figured out what she wanted and asked her if she wanted a ride. Immediate yes. We sat together even.

After church, I asked if she minded stopping at the hunting store for a shirt for S6 as we are hunting again today. She was eager to stop.

After shopping, (she picked out several things for me to look at), I told her we were going to stop to eat and she was welcome. Her reply, "that's fine, as long as you don't mind." While at brunch she asked what we were doing after and I told her we were planting hostas. She then offered to ride her bike over and help.

[SuperDad]

MC,
All great baby steps! She may be feeling guilty or maybe questioning decisions, or who knows!!!!! The point is, your response should be the same regardless:

- Keep your expectations low.
- DO NOT PURSUE!
- Continue to GAL and focus on you and your kids.
- Smile and Wave!

Have a great weekend.
SD

[mcojh]

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[mcojh]

OK> I got interupted earlier. A few more oddities for the day, that I think are steps. Which direction I don't know.

While shopping, she picked out several pairs of sandals that she said would, "look good on you".

When we got to church, she caught me looking at her as we walked in. She Asked what I was looking at, and I told her I really liked her shirt. She said "whatever" I said, "No it makes your b@@bs look great." She said it was the padding that she had on underneath and punched me in the arm. I was laughing so hard I almost hurled.

When she came over to help with the flowers, she actually was a help. She planted and I was able to do some other stuff in the yard. When she left, I gave her a hug and she actually wrapped her arms around me. I gave her a peck on the cheek and she smiled and said. "I didn't say you could do that".

Tomorrow is her nephews bday party. I was invited and she has asked me several times if I was going. I am working and could have altered my hours, but chose not to.

I dropped S6 off at her place and he insisted I come in to see the new computer. I played with him for a few and left. She walked me to the door and said a nice good night.

I jest smiled and waved.

[Dr LOve]

mcojh


Don't move to fast like I tend to but It looks like progress to me. I keep getting the same kind of mixed signals. It is so hard. I imagiane her just saying Sh#t I'm sorry and wrap her arm's (my wife not yours) around me and give me a kiss. But then I wake up.

Your W progress does sound good thou.

Keep doing what ever you are doing because it seems to be working

Husband

[lovelyolive]

Yup.. she wants you.. she still just doesn't know how much.

[mcojh]

I believe you Olive, but what do I do now? How do I keep going forward? Do I keep with the same as I have been? Do I turn up the contact or turn it down?

Strangely, when I was at her place last night dropping S6 off, She showed me a dress she bought for her nieces wedding. I looked at it and it was very nice. As of right now, I am supposed to be going to the wedding, and she asks me regularly if I am going. It is going to be hard to go, but I think I will still go.

Smiling and waving

[mcojh]

Maybe a bit over the top, but I had to drop something off for S6 on my way to work. I cut a small red flower off of a plant outside my house and gave it to CW. She asked where it came from, inferring I swiped it from someone elses plant. I told her I cut it at home for her. I blew her a kiss and she gave me a weird look and then told me she will call me tonight about tomorrow.

[Heartbroken]

Please be careful - my H hasn't talked to OW for 10 weeks and now txt her this past week. I think we may be done... Take it REAL slow - I rushed it way to much...

We are going to do a real separation - just like being D - give him a taste of what is to come and if he still wants out come August I will let him file. Boy this hurts...

I plan to start posting here once again - should never have left - we were never truly piecing (only I was...what a fool....)

[mcojh]

HB-First, please don't give up. Keep DBing for HB and the little HB's. Get that PMA back, start a new thread to get yourself on track. You need to decide what you want and go get it.