Hmm, 3rd thread already, maybe I need to check myself here
Those of you following My little story know I have my first meeting with my W in 2 months tomorrow (5/24). I'm happy because she has chosen to have this meeting with our church leader. I'm nervous because I haven't really seen her or talked to her in those 2 months.
At times I feel calm, at times I'm anxious to get there. At times I know what I'm going to do once there, at times I have no idea.
The meeting is just to discuss splitting up household items, but I'm just happy to be able to be in the same room with her and actually talk to her. Any advice is always appreciated. Those of you who have had a "first meeting" after a long absence, let me know how it went for you. I'm concerned I have to be perfect.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
She's in our house (until it sells, then she'll go to her parents' house I'd guess). I'm at my parents' place about 15 minutes away. Nice huh? 35 and living with mom and dad. At least they're cool about it.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I really doubt it with no job. Her parents' house is close by and the basement is empty. Plus, I don't think the house has sold yet, so she couldn't go anywhere yet. I think everything is going into storage, just like the stuff I get. I don't think she'll make a permanant move til things are figured out one way or the other.
And, I don't care about the stuff, and honestly, I don't think she does either. So...it should be a pretty easy process. Though as always, I'm keeping expectations low.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
If all she's asking about at the moment is the stuff, she ain't all that serious about a D. She may be testing you to see if you'll blow up at her.
Be extremely patient, measured, and kind.
That is the concensus, and I'm ready for that - but it's still nerve-wracking. I haven't seen her in so long, and I want to hold her so badly and tell her it's all going to be OK, and I just want to be the man she deserves, and, and, and...
I have about 34 hours to get my head and heart right to do this meeting right. I saw someone else wrote a while back that it's weird being nervous around your spouse, and IT IS! It especially is when I was so comfortable around her before (maybe part of the problem as well as I lost contact with her needs???)
Keep coming with ideas. It really helps!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I find that the nervous thing goes away when you're actually with them. I wouldn't focus on that.
I'm trying not to, but I think this can start something good, and I don't want to blow it. I think I'll be OK by the time the meeting rolls around, as I have a good bit of time to prepare.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I'm trying not to, but I think this can start something good, and I don't want to blow it.
Be careful you don't go in with any expectations. The disappointment if they don't work out will be harsh. Take it for what it is...a meeting to talk about stuff. Let the minister direct any other conversation.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
Be careful you don't go in with any expectations. The disappointment if they don't work out will be harsh. Take it for what it is...a meeting to talk about stuff. Let the minister direct any other conversation.
You're right on the expectations. I guess the only one I have is that she'll see some changes in me that are attractive to her and that might start something later. I guess I'd like to see a meeting #2, that'd be about it. I'm nervous I won't have another chance to talk to her anytime soon. I'll tell you what, If I hadn't found DBing I'd be a mess right now
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
No Catfan gets to go with his wife, I was just hoping. Going to the movies was one of our big things, and I know she'd love to see it. I also know, there is NO WAY I can ask her that.
What happened in your old thread?
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Hey, can I ask my wife to see Pirates of the Caribbean III with me this weekend?
You are kidding...right? The best thing you could do is be respectful, calm, assured, confident, strong!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
