Am I overeeacing

[rlhusband]

My wife has a new cell phone. Since the birth of our DD my wife and I have had a cell phone which she keeps for emergencies. We are not cell phone people and have thousands of minutes on it.

Recently my wife's purse fell over and it dropped out, she did not see I just cleaned it up and stuffed everything back in her purse but found the cell phone with the area code of OM. It was a gift to her from OM who she plays with on a computer game. I have no direct evidence of an affair other than racy emails and evidence of cybersex which she says is just online playing and denies physical interaction. I know she has met him as my wife has gone alone to Online Gaming conventions and know he was there.

I have not talked to her about it but did secretly look at phone and OM is the only other person on it.

I plan on confronting her but not sure how to go about it.

[rlhusband]

Oh and I have posts under rlhusband in both Newcomer's area and I need help with my marital problems which tell more of the story. They are under Where Do I Start In Marital Problems and Where Do I begin in Newcomers Area.

[I_Surrender]

Read this;

http://marriage.about.com/od/infidelity/ss/emotionalaffair.htm

I wish I had known about EA 3 years ago, maybe I would have been able to stop W EA from becoming a PA.

[RedHeadWife]

Racy emails & cybersex? That is what I would call cheating no matter how you look at it. You need to do something about that ASAP. Sit her down & talk to her about it in a way that is not necessarily accusatory so she doesn't just get all defensive, but it needs to stop or you are going to have a lot more problems. Just my opinion.

[Yoyowife]

RL,
You may want to read Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass. It talks about different kinds of affairs, emotional and physical. I would definitely call this an emotional affair which can lead to physical affairs. That's how it started off with my H and the OW. I wish I had known all of this before it went as far as it did. You may be able to turn it around before it goes to far. Read as much info as you can of emotional affairs.