With the WAW filing for D I suppose I will go pick the papers up on Friday. Of course I am still very much in love with my wife, but right now the only thing I can do is GAL and try and be her friend. How can I show her I am her friend???
Sorry you are here guy. I flipped through your stuff and you are in a difficult spot. She apparently has made up her mind and desires no contact.
Best you can do is to let her go and focus on you. It has been over eight months without progress. Same in my stitch.
Being her friend? Friendship is a two way street and she does not desire it apparently. Don't open yourself up for more hurt. Be civil and support her best you can. Don't argue and don't disagree. Don't contest the D process - you can only slow it down (you have given her time already, so what advantage is that?) and waste your money. But do protect yourself - it is business now.
For your own good get the legal stuff behind you. You have no kids and already sold the house - why do you not settle out of court? That is the easiest and least expensive way.
Some of the WAWs NEED the D piece of paper for closure. But the legal D is different from the emotional one. Perhaps you will be able to reconnect at a later time.
Well said Jeff. I too was in that situation. No kids, house sold, etc. We worked things out outside of court and made it much easier from an emotional standpoint.
My XW and I are still friends. She even made that same comment before she filed that "the D will bring closure to this R and open a new chapter". It was something that she needed. Although I didn't agree, I felt that I could support her by giving her what she wanted.
Hang in there T! It is not easy but you will get through it. Focus on you and GALing. Don't let the D run your life!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
So I have 30 days to respond to my papers. I don't plan to contest but I wonder if there is anything to gain if I include that my wife refused any couseling. In fact her reason for divorce is "because we have been seperated for a year" Her reason for seperation? Because "things have come about in our marriage" What are the things? I can guess but since she has never spoke to me about these issues I can only guess. I guess I care because if she would just open up, I think she would have to think that divorce is not the answer...but to this point she has not given me the chance.
Hey there. Don't refuse. That will just bring more negativity to the process. Accept it on the 29th day with your response. and then gooo sloooooow. In the process what are you doing to make yourself look different to her?
Neli
******************************* Both: 33 Together 13y; Married 8y Kids: DD8 and DS5 Separated: 08/31/06 D Filed: 2/21/07
