Last night as I sit on my deck I hear my gate open, I turn around expecting W but no, it is a friends daughter. My friend and his W are my age and have daughter 18 and son 15. So (I'll call her FD) is looking very upset and asks if she can talk to me. We talk, she tells me she isn't getting along with her mother, I ask why and I can't believe the answer.
Mom has this friend, he is 25 and she is spending all her time with him and on the phone with him, mom is always angry with dad now over things that never made her angry before etc. Typical MLC BS.
I can't believe this is happening, this woman condemed my W for what she is doing and now she is doing it as well, un f-ing believeable. FD asked if I would tell her dad about OM because her mother is sh*tting on her whenever she talks to her mother about it. I told her i would help her family as best as I could in all of this and told her what to expect from her mother in the coming times.
My friend will probably leave his W over this as he has some very strong views on this kinda thing. I am not looking forward to telling him about OM at all but damnit he is my friend and I would expect a friend to tell me.
This sucks, at least I'll be able to help my friend through this with what I've learned here.
Is there anyway that you can sort of lead him to this realization on his own. Maybe he will give himself a while to process it if he doesn't think that everyone knows about it...you know...having to divorce her to sort of save face? Not that I am advocating staying with a cheater or to accept the behavior but maybe help him find a way to discover iton his own and then you will be more of a sounding board than a diving platform?
I'm not sure quite how to go about that Fig but it would be the better way to do it. I was thinking I might just talk to his W first to make sure FD isn't blowing something out of proportion. Teenage drama it could be but it sure sounds like the truth to me.
