hi all.....Tuna checking in 26 days post D....very interesting weekend just passed....WAW wanted S16 to go to a play Sat eve and sleep over her sisters house leading up to the Mom's day picnic on sunday.....he refused to go to the sleepover but said he would go to the picnic.....she of course put me in the middle and blamed me for not forcing him to go for the entire weekend...a very recurring theme....anyway she was p/o'ed at both me and s16 but she relented on Mom's day and asked if i could drop him off at the party (45 min away)....i said sure and brought him...hard decision as to just drop him off or go in the house and greet the entire family..i took high road and went in..left after 20 min or so....was very upbeat and everyone seemed happy to see me..i think they all realize the hell she has put me and my boys through...they asked me to stay for dinner but i declined and left soon thereafter...she "walked" me out to my car and the hugging/crying/kissing that has been standard in our situation ensued....i left with mixed emotions but all in all i was happy at the way i handled it....i think she is very confused and her new life post sep/post d isnt developing as she had hoped....these aforementioned things of course lead to me continuing to hope for a miracle while at the same time i realize my only choice now is to move on..i know i should be in " D not done" by now but my great supporters here have always given me great advice and help...i wish the best for all of you here....please keep me and my boys in your prayers....BIG TUNA
ME-47 WAW-42 S16 S8 bomb 5/5/06 separated 10/6/06 D 4/18/07
It is good to hear you are doing well all things considered. I still believe God will work a miracle. You and the boys will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Go with God!
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
BT, you are always in my prayers! Keep up the PMA and remember that taking the high road shows your integrity and level of caring. My friend has a quote that she uses and I like it...it kind of reminds me of your sitch (well, most of the Separated sitches too). Her quote is:
"Everything will be ok in the end. If everything is not ok, it is not the end"
jazz/jryan/rmg/sep4 now.......thanks for your input and support.....you guys have some great advice(jazz maybe you will be right!)....im also hoping for the best for you guys too.....thing somewhat quiet here....WAW missed S8's LL game tonite...said shes not feeling well....i am an asst.coach on the team..it was great fun as we won 7-5 with S8 hitting a double....im trying to be thankful for the little things and really appreciate what i have while trying not to dwell on what i dont have (WAW)....BT
ME-47 WAW-42 S16 S8 bomb 5/5/06 separated 10/6/06 D 4/18/07
hi all...BT checking in...very quiet here as WAW continues to move further away...especially when i have the kids.....trying to keep a PMA and wishing that also for everyone here....Big Tuna
ME-47 WAW-42 S16 S8 bomb 5/5/06 separated 10/6/06 D 4/18/07
How is she moving further away? Do you have some regular contact with her? Is NOTHING happening so you THINK she's moving further away. I'm living with nothing happening too, so I know how that is.
coaching little league must be fun. I think I'm going to get S4 into sports a little next spring. He'll be 5 (he's already bigger than most 6-year olds) and he's very coordinated - can hit an overhand fastball probably .300 Maybe I'll coach.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
wes...she has expressed remorse but is trying hard to move on and away despite it....i am trying my best to hold it together and move on myself but it is so hard when you love someone for so long and dont understand(to this day) why she did this to our family....the mixed signals are hard..i barely spoke to her the last 3 days as i have the kids....we still kiss and hug everytime we see each other and as recently as last week she said "i still love you you know"...that what makes it hard...as many have said here i think she keeps me just close enough in case this new life isnt what she(or her new friends told her) it would be.....keeps me in perpetual agony however as i still fantasize about her return and continue to romanticize(sp?) the past....doesnt seem fair does it?.....i pray for you, me and every other person in this sitch....when i do finally move on i'll let you all know.....BIG TUNA- 38 days post-D....
ME-47 WAW-42 S16 S8 bomb 5/5/06 separated 10/6/06 D 4/18/07
jazz...im 100 percent convinced that is true but i need to ACTUALLY move on and not try to fake it as i have for the past year....why not start now????....you too my man!....BT
ME-47 WAW-42 S16 S8 bomb 5/5/06 separated 10/6/06 D 4/18/07
