Yeah, I'm with you. I've learned to pray constantly. I've read Divorce Remedy, it's very good. I'm reading the 5 LL's. I tried to get my wife to do the assessment with me a few months ago, but she refused. She was already on her way to filing for D, so that makes sense!
I know the success of my marriage is in God's hands. I wish I had put it there before it got bad. Live and learn! Now I know, and it'll be 1000000x better when we "start over."
Good luck with you man, let us know how the interview goes!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Jr;I asked mine also a while back to do the assessment in LL and she also refused. Maybe she thought it was pressuring her. I did it with good intentions, but I do not think it was perceived that way. Then again maybe it was pressuring her. My coach said never never pressure them. Let her take the lead and then follow her lead. When I moved out for the 2nd time this year I left the book where she could find it. Maybe just maybe she will pick it up and read it after the pain has eased. But I will not ask her to read it again. It is there should she decide to make the choice her self. I would prefer she would read and understand the bible, for Jesus was the Greatest counselor of all. She is catholic and attends church regularly. I pray she wakes up in the word and sleeps no longer in Christ for many who believe have fallen asleep in the word. God Bless You, Aim
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
hi AIM - you and i are in the same situation. my H and i were going to reconcile, i moved in for two months, and now he's hell bent on a divorce. kept in touch with his ex-OW the whole time we were supposedly trying.
my heart goes out to you. if you need a friend, i've moved back into my spot on these bloody boards. let me know how i can help.
Hi Kiki, Ditto, It is hard to try and work things out when they keep in touch with the OW or OM. No matter how hard we try. They say a house divided soon falls. But we know we have done right in our hearts and are keeping the faith. We also know that the grass is not greener on the other side. I for one intend on keeping my covenant and vows I made before God and man on the day we were married. I will not give in to D or will I sign if she does. That will have to be between her and what she believes. I have faith in Gods promise, That what ever you ask for in his name and believe he will deliver. I encourage you in faith and to keep praying for your spouse. May God Bless you and reward you during theses hard times kiki.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
Update on my sitch: I went to an interview today. It went really well. So well in fact that they sent me down to the lab for a pre employment drug test. It will be a local driving job instead of over the road which will allow me to be home on weekend and most nights. It also has full company paid benefits which are great.
I have a 21 ft boat at my fil house where my WAW is staying that he ask if I could move it. The frame broke on the move to Michigan so it needs fixed. I called him up to tell him when I could move it. MIL answered the phone and we had a nice talk. She asked if I was still going to be going over the road driving long distance and I told her no, that a local job had come up and I would be staying here in town. She asked about the job and I told her it had great benefits and pay. I am sure the WAW is finding out about now, as her mother should just be getting home from work. I wonder what she will think knowing I am getting a good life with out her????? I still miss her a lot and would love to see her and talk to her, But I am going to continue my 180. I have had no contact for awhile now. I know she is still watching what I am doing though. When it is time I have confidence God will let me know.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
Hello Everyone, Update: Life is going better for me right now. I don't know about the WAS as we have little contact. My house finally went into escrow so we will be closing soon. I will probably have to meet with her to complete escrow instructions. Hope it all goes well.
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
JR2007, Job fell through but I had an interview today. They drug tested me so that is a good sign. They don't drug test unless they are interested.
Found out what I suspected all along WAS is seeing someone. I have always kept my ring on but it is off now. I sure she will notice when I see her. I have kept it on the whole time I have been going through this. I have been trying to be dark and do 180. So maybe this will get her attention. Now maybe she will see that she can't have me waiting in the wings if things don't work out for her with OM. Being able to have your cake and eat it to makes it so you don't have to make any real decisions. At least maybe she will think about it ( or not ).
2 Ti 1:7 For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power,and of love, and of a sound mind.
