I was in denial!

[farmtown46]

I think I was in denial that my XH is a MLCer, but I think today has confirmed it. I started posting in Divorced, But Not Done Forum, but I think I actually belong here. I don't know how to transfer my thread here--is there a way to do that so I don't have to explain my sitch all over again?

I thought we were making some progress, but I screwed up yesterday and probably two weeks ago when I told him I loved him. I think I scared the crap out of him, which explains why he hasn't called today. I think its kind of sh***y that he can't call me on Mother's Day, but I kind of knew he wouldn't based on everything I've read today on the MLC posts. I should have read these posts two weeks ago. My XH fits some of the descriptions, but not all, so I think I was trying to convince myself that he wasn't in a MLC but I think I'm just fooling myself. Does anyone have any advice for me--I would really appreciate it.

Thank you.

[unbroken]

Hi Farmtown,
In my opinion, I don't think it really matters if you can define your XH as MLC or not. If the MLC boards help you and you can relate more to people here than anywhere, that's all that matters. No matter where we are with our sitches, we all need support and if this is where you find it, then this is where you belong.

I hope you find what you need here. There are a lot of great people here with good advice and a lot of good listeners!
Unbroken

[Rollercoasterider]

You've only posted a few times, but it seems you have a few threads. I''' put links below. My recommendation is that you maintain one thread from now on...until it locks. That way we can keep track easier. Thread 1 Thread 2 It looks like you may have simply repasted your intiial posting in a differnt forum...sorry, I only read the first line to scan. But these won't take long for us to review--when we have time that is.

The MLC forum is pretty active...I think the most active here. So just be patient and partciapate on other threads if you have input...or even just to offer hugs; partcipation increases responses.

HUGS,
RCR

[farmtown46]

Thank you so much for your help--I really do appreciate it. I will stay on this thread for now since I feel this is where I belong. I have had some wonderful advice on the other forums, but when I read the 6 stages of MLC, my heart skipped a beat. I can see him in the descriptions and realize I have made a few really bad mistakes. I hope they're not irreversible--the last thing I want to do is prolong his journey.

I'll be patient and look forward to participating on other threads. Thanks again for helping me.

[a new 2moro]

We all make mistakes...luckily the MLCer has short term memory....haha.....yeah those 6 stages put it in perspective huh? we have alot of grrrreat people here to help you. The golden rule is give yourself 48 hours to mull stuff over before reacting to anything. Its sooo hard when the spew comes out.