Nothing surprises me any more!

[stubborn]

well if I can't even reply in my own thread does that mean I finally locked one up? OOOOOHHHHHH!!!! I feel so important.

yes, dear readers, it's true: Nothing suprises me anymore. Friday came home from work during my lunch to pick something up and found OWs children playing at my house. How nice. It was an early dismissal day for PT conferences. I'd like to confer with THEIR parent but she's so far below me it wouldn't be fair communication. Spouse sent me an email to tell me she didn't "feel guilty" about my finding them being babysat in my own home. NOTHING SURPRISES ME ANYMORE. But I must say that generally I don't bother to tell people when I DON"T feel guilty!

This would be the same spouse who said she wasn't doing anything to encourage any extra interactions between the children (outside of school, where they are not in the same class). But babysitting them in MY home with OUR daughter isn't "encouraging" extra interactions...NOTHING SURPISES ME ANYMORE.

I especially wasn't surprised when DD told her amusing little story to me the LAST time they had early dismissal and spouse took them all to OWs house to play for the afternoon, after I have expressly asked her not to take DD to OWs house or have her around OW. NOTHING SURPRISES ME ANYMORE.

And when I got home tonight with DD to find a note taped to the phone that said "being treated to early birthday dinner" suffice to say NOTHING SUPRISES ME ANYMORE!!!!

The only thing that would suprise me would be if she suddenly pulled her head out and told the truth. Whatever that might be.

[stubborn]

and did I mention "NOTHING SUPRISES ME ANYMORE"?!?!?!?!?!?!

[inspiredjulie]

Hugs stubborn. Sorry sweetie. I am not in a very good DB place right now, so I will keep my mouth shut short of telling you that I think you are great and really appreciate your sense of humor.

Take care of you sweets. Hope you have a great Mother's Day. Thinking of you!!!

[stubborn]

Thanks! Mothers Day was fine if you omit that fact that my spouse is screwing someone else. oh well.

I know you are in a scary place and I don't expect you to hold me up. I appreciate all you do!

What did your girls do for you?

[Yoyowife]

Stubborn,
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. It's like they are rubbing it in your face. How painful. Why do they think it is okay to treat another human like that?

[inspiredjulie]

No worries. Just being a friend.

My girls didn't do 'anything' for me. I did get to spend time w/ them, and the didn't fight the entire time, which was nice. It was a frustrating day in regards to my H, but that is b/c he is on his own schedule. Anyway... overall, I can't complain a bit. Didn't expect anything so wasn't disappointed. Very lucky to have such great kiddos every day!

Julie

[whatisis]

Stubborn, maybe this will perk up your day (it does mine!).
Yesterday we went to see D's dance performance at the theatre. My new friend was also there (she and I had purposely arranged to buy tickets to the same performance) to see her D. At intermission I notice her looking into the seats for me, we then see each other and we're waving frantically at each other, in front of my W. My new friend meets us in the lobby and wishes my W a Happy Mothers Day and then says to my W "and what would your name be?" W tells her and then starts introducing my mother "this is my MIL X and this is (pointing to my friend)...umm, umm", she doesn't know my friends name, so she stands there going "umm", that cracked me up (inside of course). W then looks to me and I have to finish the introductions. Well, W sure knows her name now! That just brought a perverse little bit of joy to my heart watching my friend, although not purposely, embarass my W in front of my whole family! I hope it brought a glimmer to yours too.

[whatisis]

Stub, have you gone dark on us? Hope all is well!

[stubborn]

thanks for the inquiry fellow furniture. I got sick last week and am just now beginning to feel human. Really miserable ache all over malaise. But finally dragging back from the precipice (sp?)

Today I get to go on a bowling field trip with DD8. A bit of a busmans holiday for me but I figure how much longer will she want me to go places with her? I'd better take advantage while I can.

Homefront: spouse and OW are considering the stupidity of their situation and OW has decided they should stop having a sexual relationship as it will "never go anywhere"...except to bed evidentally. Idiots. Spouse as usual when confronted with anything suggesting rebuilding family says "I'm confused and don't know what to do". I must be more assertive but just haven't had the stamina due to illness. I have done what I could via email. I have made what I consider a last ditch effort to learn how to get spouses attention by consulting a much more DIRECT coach, not affiliated with this site but also very good. (that is not a slam at coaches from this site, they too are very good. How sad that affairs are so prevalent they can be studied)

I'm sure just like you, I go back and forth trying to figure out what's best for DD etc. And sometimes I do it with a broken heart and sometimes with a clear head. And almost always with tears. Ain't life grand?

[inspiredjulie]

Hey stubborn. Keep focusing on getting yourself back to 100%. You can't do this on less than that.

Interesting that spouse and OW are reexamining their R. Don't know what that will mean for you, however, I hope it means whatever you want it to be.

Take care of yourself and DD8. Have a great summer. Enjoy life. Eat popsicles and go to the pool. Live. Breathe. Be.

Take care, sweetie. You deserve better!