My father is in the hospital again, with pneumonia again, and it's all too familiar, all too scary. I should be at a point of acceptance, and I'm working on it, but I am incredibly sad.
This time he is not up here with me...he is down in Florida, and my brother is there. He is stepping up and shouldering this, which is a nice thing to see. It's a wait and see game, again.
NJ: I'll keep your dad in my prayers. I can relate to how you are feeling right now. My dad has gone through prostate cancer and the surgery to remove it and then he had a heart attack -- both while he was in WA State and I was clear across the country. I didn't go when he had the prostate surgery, but when he had the heart attack I packed up S7 who was much younger then and was our only one at the time and went.
Now he and mom live down here where we are, but very recently had to be airflighted from here to a bigger city to get more surgery done on his heart.
It's all very scary. I never realize how much older my parents are getting. They are just mom & dad, you know?
Hang in there. Hope you have a good support system.
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Thank you Cadesmom. I have been preparing for this...I mean, there is no shock here, but it still hurts so much. I am going to let my brother be on the frontlines, for now. I appreciate the prayers.
You and your family are in my prayers. My Mom is a cancer survivor (of a very virulent form of bone cancer - multiple myeloma) - we live with a tiny kernal of fear in the back of our minds of recurrence. I know how hard it is to have a parent seriously ill.
Hang in there. Hug your family tight. Cry as you need to. Watch a funny movie (Blades of Glory was seriously stupid but funny). Take good care of yourself and know that you have friends here.
So sorry to hear that Journey. My mum passed away just over 2 years ago now. Lived with cancer for 18 months. She was in France and we are all in England so that was hard going. You and your dad are in my prayers.
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I am really sorry about your Dad. I lost mine when he was only 57, and it was very sudden (2 weeks) with no warning.
I am glad that you have at least had some time to prepare. There is no way I can know for sure, but I suspect that it may at least ease your pain some.
All the best, -NOPkins-
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Thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. Maybe it's not the healthiest thing to rely on an internet BB for support, but who cares. I have only told one real-life friend.
My brother is keeping me updated...so far no change. I hope somehwere in my father's unconcious state he will remember to bring out his stubborn side.
Karen, my father's Hebrew name is Joseph...reminds me of the circle of life. Also...my very dear friend's H is battling multiple myeloma for the past yr...he is on new medication, but they are considering a stem cell transplant. It is wonderful to hear your mom got better.
Well, life is a journey... I have learned a lot here about how to cope with crisis...now to put it to use!
Last year my father handed over to me some medals from WW2. I was going over them, and one of them seemed ultra cool, with a machine gun on it and the word carbine on it. So I asked him what this one was about, and he looks to the ground in shame, and mumbles that it was for being an expert marksman. That's how he is...really capable, really modest.
