Is that kind of like "it hurts so good? Sorry I don't mean any disrespect but the question: "Is it truly possible to love someone and hate them at the same time"
Sounds like a country western song.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I sure as hell feel like I'm living a country western song right now and I feel like my body has gone through that bash dancing stuff. This is tougher than anything I've ever had to go through and I hate it. I can deal without having all the control but give me something to hang onto to help keep me going.
I'm going to Pennsylvania next Friday for 10 days. I'm really nervous about going. He's not been calling me much other than "I need you to do this and I need you to do that". I know he's on the phone to her alot so they are getting to build "more" of a relationship. Any suggestions?
You have to give yourself some time, as well as your H. As much as we'd like to see you resolve this thing, you can't hurry it up...just let it play out (of course with some help from the Divorce Busting crew along the way).
Some M's take time to fix, some don't (a handful never will get fixed, so you may want to prepare yourself for that possibility also).
Don't forget about your kids in all this, as they are very much affected by the changes you two are going through as well.
I know it needs some time. I guess since we haven't lived in the same house for so long I'm just so anxious to get up there and feel like I'm doing something. I feel like I'm drowning in quicksand and I can't get my footing. I know the best thing is not mention anything about the R while I'm there. I figure I'll go out and job hunt and check out some sights and let him take the lead for the most part. I know not to mop around and be all sad. This is just so very hard. Our 25th anniversary is next Tuesday and I don't know how to handle that one either. We always talked about renewing our vows on our 25th and here we are talking D. Not saying anything about the R will be a 180 for me. I know I have to start working on this and see how it all plays out.
Yvonne, I think the hardest thing for me is that nothing is going on in my sitch, which yours seems a lot like mine. We have been separated for almost 8 months. He hasn't filed D papers, but yet I wonder all the time if he going to. He certainly has said in the past that he was going to. I hate being in limbo, but I don't want to push him towards D if he is uncertain because ultimately I would like to work this out. But on the other hand I am detaching in the event that it comes to D. Our 21st anniversary is coming up in about 6 weeks and I too think about it often. What a way to spend an anniversary, huh? I guess what I'm trying to say is that we all such similar fears. Sounds like you are working on yourself, keep up the good work.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
