My h of 20 years has been with ow for 13 mo. it started as a little sex adventure, she is 20 years younger, of totally different education, interests etc. she is an assistant in the office where he is the "big boss". essentially she is interested in a great new life style: she shops and travels at places that she knew only from pictures. she is a classic gold-digger. he spends enormous $$ and energy to please her. all of it caused him growing debts. he bought her mercedez, house, furniture, computers, tvs, jewelry, i do not know what else. in 1 year from prosperous man he turned into money hungry scam business-wise. not to mention that our son (in college) and myself straggling financially. its like a fire burned down whole life in spur of the moment. we cannot talk as h tried to lie and i cannot tolerate it. i left him alone, stopped calling, asking, talking. he was extremely angry at me all this year (so i was too).
however, my question is -- will be he happy with her? has anybody heard about happy life after affair? resulted in right now he cannot think anything but her. the whole world could fall apart, but he will not notice. everybody saying that he will hit the wall eventually, but could it be the real love of his life? can he be happy after he devastated his family? not only us, but his mother, sister, extended family. he said that he had changed. i cannot recognize him, he looks older, exhausted and his eyes are dead. he changed his social circle of people of his age into much younger people, who cannot be his friends.
If I told you that it was very unlikely would it matter? If this thing collapses and he comes running back, apologetic and broke, are you planning on welcoming him with open arms? I don't think in the long run that it will work out, but I wouldn't wait around hoping it doesn't.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Most everything I've read indicates these things fall apart, with the laws of economics playing a significant part in the demise. The money stops flowing, the fantasy world isn't so much fun, the OP doesn't appears as sexy...CRASH!
