I have never read your posts but I'm glad your marriage survived..do you have any words of wisdom...
my thread right now is how do they walk away....
My H just told me he has an 8 year old done from an affair he had 8 years ago..kept it a secret for 8 years. now is involved with someone else for the past 1 1/2 years...has some MLC tendencies...I love him so much and want to work this out...but how..I've been with him for 30 years but he doesnt seem to care...any advice would be greatly appreciated...
Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
NIce to see you're still hanging in there Fish. I think of you and always hope you are doing well.
Life goes on ok for me to.........adjusting to H being back almost a year now. It's had ups and downs to say the least but we're still here. one day at a time.
so good to hear from you.
brue
I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine. Life is good for the Brue!
Jack, Brue, Fig, Lis---thank you all so much for the Hello's!!!
Treese, I replied on your thread :-)
I always enjoy checking back in on you all! I'll never forget how much this place and and all of you helped me in what was surely one of the lowest points of my life.
Almost six months since I've checked in. It's funny how it just strikes me sometimes, that I should just type "divorcebusting" in the browser and see what's up.
I didn't do that this time though - I haven't read any posts, just jumped right here to post mine.
Yes, still together, still getting better!
I still have my days, Lord Knows!, where I want to freakin' ring his neck! I guess that will never change. But we are getting along so much better.
We had a big fight early in the year - I think it was somewhere between my January appearance and my April appearance. It didn't seem like that big of a deal back then because it was still kind of 'normal'. But I've realized lately that it was the last really big fight. It happened in front of a friend of mine that stayed right here, watching every second unfold, and in truth, making it all much worse. It put a strain on our friendship, and we are not nearly as close as we used to be. But her ex has recently come back, and they seem to be making some progress, even though we are distant enough that I don't know details. It has made me reflect, and realize that since she has been out of our intimate lives, H & I have not had that kind of problem again. Wow. More than six months with no "you'll see when I leave your a$$" kind of fight!
We've also had much more association with some of his friends in the last few months - friends he kept me away from after everything hit the fan. It has gone well. And I will take some of the credit. In one of the first get togethers, one of the wives in the crowd brought up OW in gossipy fashion (mean to her, not me), and I just said "let's not go there," and we didn't.
I tread a really fine line in real life, as a leader of a divorce support group. I want to give hope, but have to be careful not to give it where it is not appropriate. Some of you may remember I left my first husband. I think I even admitted somewhere along the line being the "other woman" (I thought he was separated - he was living out of town from his wife and it was several months before I realized it wasn't over for them). I guess I come back here because I know there are more people who are really trying, who really want to give their spouse the benefit of the doubt. In my divorce group most are past that point. I want to encourage, but I don't want to judge or blame.
Just search for my threads in the archives. I probably won't ever post in the success thread. It's an ongoing process. I'll just keep coming back here, hoping to run into friends, hoping to inspire newbies. Success is a process. I'm telling you, even if something worse happens to my marriage, I've found success in this process of trying to make it work.
