Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I am sorry he has become this person i do not know anymore..this cruel heartless person.....this person with no conscious or sense of right or fair to me.....my uncle is blown away by the change in him the past year...he is sad too as he loved us both.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
That is different then. OK. He get's the benifit of the doubt, but you still deserve an explaination.
Hugs and High Fives,
Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I heard tonight on tv someone say .. "when someone hurts you the instinct is to hurt back"
this is so true and those of us with H's on the ledge, can't make up their minds, can't decide and have just gotten totally lost. It is hard some days not to want to hurt back. but we don't and we will be rewarded in the end.
pws do you think that maybe the personality change in your H is related to the mlc? I have not read your threads I will catch up this week since i have so much time. But maybe my L was trying to tell me about this when he told me to get him to agree to the settlement when he was in the giving mode for when he starts to get angry he is going to start to fight for everything.
It's been 11 months wonder if he is going to file every day now, hate the feeling.
stay focused and take care of you for I found out the hard way stress is not good on the body. lots and lots of hugs to last the weekend H
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
"Strength through insanity" .. that sums it up pretty well, HB.
Woke up this morning like I'm coming off a two week drunk .. puffy eyes, fuzzy head, twitch in my left eyelid. I had detached very well from H for many months (since last August), and I thought I was doing okay. Then all that resolve came tumbling down yesterday.
Well, now's not the time to give in or give up. Actually it may be a blessing in disguise, as many of you wise people pointed out. The situation has come to a head. H can't stall anymore or flaunt the law anymore. He will have to be accountable for his actions.
A big part of me worries about H .. I do think he has mental problems beyond MLC. A judge in another state ordered him into alcohol rehab last month. Maybe this judge will order him into psychiatric counseling.
HB .. I used to dread going to the mailbox everyday b/c I thought I would find divorce papers from H. Then things began to get better between us and I stopped worrying -- that's when I got them. H dropped the D two days later! There's just no telling with these MLCers.
Holly .. today will be a better day. Hugs to you, too, girl.
well i wish mine would drop them....but he now is gona have to be accountable for spousal support....it will severely cut into OW's take as she has been getting it all....and he has been giving me less and less
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Getting locks changed on my doors today. When H arrives back in town tonight and reads the court documents, he won't be any too pleased.
I'm not too concerned about violence from H, but some of his family is wacko and the OW's brother is on meth. I'm sure they will see me as a controlling ***** who can't wait to get my greedy hands on H's and OW's new house.
So I'm changing locks just in case.
I do expect a spewing phone call from H and will be surprised if I don't get one.
You have a good head on your shoulders and I know you will be fine. It might be a good thing that h will be held accountable for his actions! I am glad you are having the locks changed you don't need any more chaos from the crazies!
