I've been busy trying to get my sh*t together, to be blunt. I have almost blown it and needed some time to cool off.
I've been putting all of my energy in work, and getting home exhausted, so I don't have any energy to get into it with my W.
I still don't like my W, so I am doing my own thing. Just keeping busy with doing things for me in order to improve myself. Not much more I can do to help my sitch along. And I still feel like I am in Limbo with her. Still, it's nice that she is being nice at times.....
Last edited by sol1696; 04/26/0709:05 PM.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
My art business is slow but it is consistently taking off. I know I need to invest lots of time and energy into it in order to make it happen. The "nice things" that my W is doing is buying a shed to clear the garage so I can work out of there. It is going to be a sweet deal, and I see that my W is interested in my artistic talents though I let myself down over the years by not following through with my dreams.
So I am doing what I know best, and that is to immerse myself in my art and just crank out some good stuff on canvas. I am also designing some artwork for printing on clothing, and hope to market my work through my website (that I need to re-do).
The shed is in pieces and I have to assemble the darn thing. My W is having a yard sale this weekend to clear out some junk (to us it's junk to but others a find). I am looking forward to redecorating the garage into my art studio - something I always wanted. I figure that some part of the house needs to be "my haven" especially since I am paying for the house.
I feel helpless in my sitch, but not in my abilities to get off my a$$ and make something of myself. I'm aiming high!
Last edited by sol1696; 04/26/0711:42 PM.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Need help. Struggling a bit. Phone calls to OM - not snooping, it's my own cell phone statement. Also something is bothering her with work, she said she wants to quit, and I am getting rumors that she already quit her job, but she hasn't told me yet.
I see that she's trying to reach out to me, and maybe she's afraid to tell me for fear that I will blow a gasket with her. I'm learning to control my anger, but still working on my anxiety.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
I wouldn't worry about the phone calls with OM. They could be meaningless drivel or just the last vestiges of a dying relationship. I'd just ignore it because chances are if that's not happening yet, it eventually will. The majority of these affairs eventually die a slow ugly death.
I'm glad to hear you're working on you and your anxiety. That should be a main focus. Channel it into your artwork. That's what pain and anxiety is for (a fuel for creativity!).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I just found out my W's affair was a PA. They had sex 10 times, OM told me, guess he doesn't feel guilty about the whole thing, but now I have nothing but pure disgust for my W and I am sure I want to end it. She was married to me, she went outside the marriage during that time, had sex HIM and with me (it was the best), now I know how far it went.
I have an email from stupid that confirms they had sex, and I am not even sure that I want to stay married to that woman. She's no longer my wife, I won't even use that word to describe her. I will just call her "that woman". I am pretty devastated right now, and can't even concentrate at work.
How very nice that the whole thing came to light - and from jerk face at that. That woman can't even be upfront with me and talk about it. It was a full-fledged affair, and it revolts me.
Great1 They might as well have a freakin life together and continue thier adulterous realtionship - but not with me as th naive "chump". How stupid I feel........
Last edited by sol1696; 04/27/0701:16 PM.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Sorry to hear that but step back a minute! You would believe anything coming from the mouth of an adulterer? I wouldn't because the man has no morals.
Listen, you've probably known all along that this was the case deep down inside but were willing to at least attempt to work on it.
If this is a deal breaker for you then so be it. But think, could it be that he sent it because he's losing his grip and WANTS you to get pissed off so that she can run to him for consolment? Put that in your pipe and smoke on it for awhile.
Sol, look I know that when the confirmation comes it just hurts and it sucks. It is the reality that we just don't want to hear, to know that our W had sex with another man.
However, come on Sol, you cannot tell me that you did not "know" that they had an affair dude. To much had occurred and you had your suspicions before now. All this is is a confirmation to what you already thought and you know it. Yet having that feeling you continued to want your marriage and your wife. Why is that different now, because you now have proof? Does it really change things that much for you?
Give yourself that golden 48 hour period to think this through sol before you do anything. Do not talk with her about it, do not make any decisions about it, do nothing. If you cannot work, talk to your boss, take the day off and go somewhere and just relax.
Sol do not overreact before you have a chance to think this through my friend. You will regret any actions that you take simply reacting to this news.
