Looking for Help

[GK99]

Well, I've been waiting for this for a few months now and I guess W is finally ready to have "the talk". I got the following email from her today:

Hey,
I am sure you did well on your exam. You will probably did better than you think.

You better take a good pair of walking shoes to Vegas, I hear you walk a lot there and you should wear good shoes.

Do you have a busy week ahead? I was hoping we could plan to talk sometime this week about where we go from here and next steps. We can meet wherever you choose. I am free any night this week or available on the weekend (April 28/29). Whatever works for you.

Also, I would like to take care of the cats at the house when you are in Vegas. I can give you a ride to the airport if you would like.

Thanks.

W

I am not sure what I should do. Can anyone give me any suggestions of how to approach things? I just feel like this is the beginning of the end. According to DB I should not have any relationship talks (this would be the first one since January). How can I avoid it? Should I avoid it?

Any help would be very much appreciated!

PS...I am pretty sure I failed the exam she is referring to which would set me back a full year in my plans to get my accounting designation. Not a good week so far...

[Imageer]

If you and her are referring to D. It is her action and not yours. Take no part in it. Let her do all the work.

[GK99]

So what should I actually say to her if she wants to go ahead with selling the house? I currently live at the house and she is staying with a friend. We can't actually get divorced for another 6 or 7 months because we have to be separated for 1 year first. I guess I'm looking for specific things I can say to her this weekend if and when this comes up??

[Valentine]

GK99, what makes you think she is in MLC?

Has she moved out? Is there OM?

Please provide more info...

Vali

[GK99]

Hi Vali. She moved out in November. I don't know if there is OM or not. I don't know for sure if she is in MLC, but she has given the standard MLC lines:

-ILYBNILWY
-I married the wrong guy
-I've never really been happy

Her behaviour and attitude has changed quite a bit over the past year. She has surrounded herself with new friends, goes out clubbing, and she has not come back to the house to see our cats in over 3 months. A few people have called it QLC instead of MLC because of her age (26). I guess it doesn't really matter what you call it, the point is she left 5 months ago but she is wanting to get together to see where we go from here. I am not sure what to say to her. I don't want to give up on our M but I feel like the situation is hopeless.

[GK99]

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[a new 2moro]

thats all the standard lines.....QLC?