W and I took kids to see Shrek III and then to dinner on Friday. For the first weekend in a long time she didn't spend hours and hours on the computer working on homework. Instead??? We worked in the yard a good part of the weekend. We went out and bought flowers and plants for the garden. W planted the window box and a couple of other box planters, trimmed some trees.
Two things make this important, #1 is that she has said all along that she is leaving and the house stays with me, so why would any of this matter to her? #2 is that she had no need to be home working on homework, yet she did not go out this weekend.
Trying not to read anything into any of this.
Now....this coming weekend. My parents are planning on having the kids all weekend. There will be no need to find sitters or worry about being home at any given hour. She potentially could take off for the entire weekend with someone or be out Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings. What will she choose to do???? I have no idea but it sure is on my mind today.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
Ok, I changed some plans so the kids will be home still Friday night for a last day of school driveway/hot dog & marshmallow roast/celebration. W did not seem to have an issue with that so it doesn't appear she was planning on going anywhere for the whole weekend anyway. She still could I suppose but hasn't said anything. She could still go out Saturday night as well but I will have to wait and see. Strange how you can feel some tension and anxiety at the same time you also kind of feel calm about it. I wonder if desensitization to the problem does that?
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
Made it through the weekend although I'm not sure if there is any more insight one way or another. She did not go away for the weekend. She did go out on Saturday night but went (she said) shopping to look for a dress for her graduation. She got home fairly early so I have no reason really to question that story other than past history. Then on Sunday morning she showed me the other side by accusing me of checking her messages on her cell phone. Unfortunately, I reacted more defensively than I should have and apologized for that a little while later. Oh well, I guess a mixed bag is better than all completely negative for the weekend.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
