W was out with friend today with Sam and was due back about 6.30. I got text saying she would be home at 5 and could I meet them at hers so we could see Sam's reaction to his new bed!!
We had a takeaway again!!! and agreed to take Sam to the zoo on Sunday.
She has just stuck a postcard from Dick from Oz up, full of usual vomit inducing sweetness!! BUT I am being happy and cheerful around her and as I left after out takeaway she said you don't have to leave straight away but I did and promptly had a text from her as I got home about nothing in particular!!
GREAT NEWS!!! I wish I had your PMA right now! Keep on going like this and you really are on the right track. It was great of you leave even though she suggested that she didn't want you to!
Keep flying!
Me 36 ring on H 41 ring off S2 Together since 1992 Married: 2000 Bomb Aug 06 H moved out Oct 06 (and straight in with OW)
Went to footy today, as W knew, and had no plans to see Sam, at 5.15 W sent text to say they were home and did we win!!!
Result was that she then asked me round 'until Sam goes to bed'.
Got there and fridge was stocked with beers!! She also said, AND THIS IS THE DOWNER, that she had been speaking to her mum and they were worried how I would be when davedick retunrned and I could not see Sam as much!! She did in the same breath say how much she had enjoyed me being there so often in past couple of weeks but that that would change.
I DB'ed and said its her life and whatever happend was fine. I just wonder what IS going to happen come the 18th when dick is back!!!
Maybe when he gets back he'll be getting nervous about you and how much time you spent where W and Sam. Nerves is a "bad" thing. Tends to make people possessive. Wouldn't it be nice if he got all jealous and wierd?
Good job on the DBing. Send all your growls to us here.
Right I have held off but now have major need to vent!
Had a great day starting with text saying 'hurry up' and once I got round to W's we went for a quick breakfats before going to the zoo with Son.
Had a fantastic day, despite W getting all self-conscious that she has put on a bit of weight and is embarrased by tummy bulge!! I re-assured her that she was fine!
Got back and after Sam went to fed we had a Chinese. Brilliant time and very relaxed. Then went in garden to have a smoke and she had a text message. She laughed andI asked 'whats up' and she told me it was dick asking 'if you are alright?, obviously not by how you have not text me all day' !!
She said she had sent him a short text earlier but no more as she was with me all day. I offered to go at that point and she told me not to act the victim. I said 'I am not so I'll stay for another cig' to which she said good.
She said she would text dick when I left but would not tell him that she had spent all weekend with me as it would not be nice when he is 12,000 miles away!!!
She said as I left that she had had a really great day and to be fair it was like old times again without the 'intimacy'
I am really scared I am screwing this up by spending too much time with her but I feel that she is enjoying herself but that it will all come back to Dick when he is back!!!!
I think she's living in the fantasy of this relationship right now and I'm not sure you can do anything to stop it. The harder you try to stop it, the more she will go to him. Keep doing what you're doing but perhaps don't be so available. Seems like she can see you as being the reliable one and DD will only get more jealous of you over time which will work in your favour. It's a very long road......patience is something you need even in your darkest hours.
Continue to be her friend and no R talk....you need to make this time with DD gone to be very good between you two. See, she's already "hiding" you from DD by not telling him that you are spending time with her....that, believe it or not, is working in your favour, I think.
Me 36 ring on H 41 ring off S2 Together since 1992 Married: 2000 Bomb Aug 06 H moved out Oct 06 (and straight in with OW)
I don't think you are screwing things up. Are you pushing anything? nope didn't think so. Are you contacting her, nope didn't think so... W is contacting you. and W telling you it was a nice time with you. is GREAT
as for DD, let him stew. and the more he stews the more he will probably end up being possesive and/or jealous which she will see and she will see that you are not that way!
Keep doing what you are doing.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
I agree that dd may get the jealousy bug. Keeping that in mind, be your sweet self. I tend to think you can take advantage of seeing W while he is gone. At some point (maybe when he returns, but whatever you decide) I think you need to be less available. I agree that her hiding the fact that she's seeing you could be a positive.
