Took the weekend away from the board and my thread locked, only 9 pages...
Anyway, nothing really going on here. The weather is getting nicer and the kids are loving being able to play outside.
Last week was a rough one at work for H. So I called on Saturday and left a message that I just wanted him to know I was thinking of him and hoping he had a nice weekend. I also let him know that I would be grilling for dinner on Sunday and invited him for dinner. He called back Sunday and said thank you for calling him but that he was going to catch up on work and wasn't coming for dinner. I said no problem and I hoped he had a good day.
He came over today (his usual visit day) and helped me fix D4's chest of drawers and was being nice. He still brings up the fact that we are headed for D and I don't react anymore. Maybe he will just drop it eventually, but I doubt it. He is working on a SA he wants me to look at, I said okay.
He did say that he was invited to The Masters over Easter weekend and since he doesn't have the kids that weekend he thinks he's going to go. I didn't flip out or react at all. He said he might be back in time for dinner on Easter. I said okay. Really now I am not expecting him to even show up. I don't understand how a parent would voluntarily not be there for the kids on a holiday. Especially since he knows the kids and I will be moving this summer and his time for being with them lots it limited. His mom will be he then so we will have a great holiday with the girls.
I am finding happiness in the small things. My children in everyday moments The happiness in me when my kids reach for my hand Sunsine, beautiful weather Friends Laughter
Shades, Glad to find you started your new thread. Good to hear your PMA, and that you're no longer reacting to your H's statements about heading for D, etc. I bet it'll make him start to wonder "Why is she not reacting? Is she happy I'm leaving her?" Keep up the PMA and GAL and being happy with the small non-H stuff. Take care, PH
Sounds like you're in a good place. I am always in awe of those (like you) who can not react to statments made by spouses. I have some days that are better than others that way.
I'm really happy you're enjoying the small stuff. After all those moments are what a real life is made of.
Shades, You are doing so great. Don't questino why your H doesn't want to spend Easter with his kids. He is numb. He cannot feel anything for anyone. It's a classic sign of depression. I know that as mothers, we cannot fathom it, but your H is living in his own personal hell right now. Plus, it may just be too difficlt for him to spend Easter with his family, knowing he is throwing them away.
As for you... YOU GO GIRLIE! That's teh attitude. I remember reaching that point msyelf. Now is the time for you to take great pleasure in the simple joys of life, like spending time with yoru girls. Do some fun spring stuff with them.
Let's go to Lissett's mom's house for some Cuban food!
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Shades, I had this whole post written out to you and it got lost! I like your new thread title!
I am glad you are able to find happiness in the little things. If it wasn't for my children I don't know where I would be.
Like Lissett said, we need to figure out a day to get together with all the kiddies. That would be a lot of fun.
Do something fun with your girls for Easter. Let your H miss out, his loss.
I plan on going to my parents for S6's spring break and spending Easter there. I am going to do an Easter egg hunt for them and probably have them do some arts and crafts.
The weather is going to be absolutely gorgeous out today! Enjoy it with the children outside. Hope you have a good day!
Grace, I do feel I am in a good place right now. Boy it has taken me a while to get here. I still fall flat on my face some days and expect it to be that way to a certain extent I guess. Like today a song came on the radio and I had to turn it off b/c it makes me cry like a baby. You will get to where you don't react to every little thing. Be patient with yourself, it's not easy.
Lissett, what can I say? I just LOVE you!!! I definately want to get us all together before I go. We will have to plan it. Oh, and Cuban soup at your mom's - OH YEAH!!!!
PS, Always love to har from you! Isn't it weird how the "special" days ssend these MLCers into overdive? What is that all about? I am not going to let him ruin my holiday with the kids. I am not going to plan on him showing up at all. Then if he does great, if not his loss. Hope you are doing great!!
Mrs, I hope you have a wonderful time at your folks for spring break and Easter. My kids have already started practicing hiding and finding eggs. It was Sunday afternoon and I bet some of our neighbors went in to check their calendars to make sure they hadn't missed Easter. LOL!! The girls were running around and having so much fun you would have thought it was the actual day. Not just empty plastic eggs out there. hahahaha
Oh I forgot. D4's dresser broke completely. I told H today that I checked every store around us and not one of them carries the drawer glides we need. So I am just going to buy her a new dresser. He's fine with that but he suggested that I go get a less expensive dresser to "hold us over" until I move home this summer then buy a nice one. I told him I wasn't going to do that. It's silly to go spend a couple hundred bucks on a dresser to give away in 3 months only to buy a new one. I laughed and said "that's just the way you are now, everything is dissposable and can be thrown out and replaced." He kinda laughed and shuffled his feet around. It just came out, I didn't think about what I was saying. Oh well.
Shades, interesting when they do a half-laugh, isn't it? It's kinda like: Oh Sh*t, she's on to me...and then the nervous laugh...
you really are the best DBer around...wish I could be more like you...but my temper gets the best of me...
I really pray for you that Vanilla Ice will wake up before you leave and beg for your forgiveness...I can still dream, right?
I remember you saying that your MIL was coming for 5 weeks to visit with you...hope she is still coming and that her visit is a happy one...I am sure she adores your girls...I wish I could be there when you and Lissett and Aid, etc..get together to visit. Take pictures!!!
You are one cool customer, lady...Vanilla Ice is outta his mind.
Hugs, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
