I just found out that she is still cheating on me w/om from last fall. I am devestated. What do I do? She has been going out a lot with out me and saying it was with her friends. We had a fight Fri. night after she went out and would not answer her phone. My gut told me she was with him. Then Sat. she stays at her sisters and goes out again. I found an e-mail from her to her friend saying that she had a great time Sat. night with him and other friends and that her and him already had plans to be together that night.
I am still living with her but almost moved out on Sat. after she confessed to lying to me about where she was on Friday night. Saturday she told me that she really was at her friends house on Fri. and that she lied about being with other people because I didn't trust her.
I want to confront her so bad. I want to move out tonight. I want to tell the om's wife and ruin his life like mine is ruined.
I agree with FlyingHigh... don't do anything on the spur of an emotion! Breath... Breath... I kicked my Husband out because I was feeling JUST LIKE YOU. Think about it first. I know how you feel, you just want it all to stop so bad. You feel like you have no control over your life, I know it is a terrible feeling.
Sometimes you don't - I found out the hard way. My H is still in contact with the OW (2 times a day) but at least he is back home now and I am "piecing". I still don't know which way it will go, but I am still trying.
Have you read the book Divorce Remedy? Get it and read it. It helped me. Hang in there. I know it is hard and it feels like your heart is being ripped out. I know. It hurts. But don't lose hope. Don't give up if your R is worth it to you. Breath...... Breath......
I was able to go out with friends immediately after work and not get home till she was asleep. I haven't said anything yet, but am still confused as to what to do. I have read Divorce Busting. She told me a little while ago, in what I consider one of her rare honest moments, that she knew that she could'nt ask me to wait on her, but that she wished that she could. I think I will tell her that I know that it is still going on, but that I still love her and will wait as long as my heart allows.
my other two options I feel would be to: 1. Pretend I don't know and continue on with db'ing 2. Find an apt. and move out...tell the om's wife....and let her see the consequences of her and his actions....she has said that she doesn't know if she doesn't want me to leave because she still loves me or is just used to me being around...has said that she probably wouldn't know that till I was gone
I had a talk with her today....she confirmed that she was seeing him she re-iterated that she was confused she reminded me that she is not sure if she can get the "in love" feeling back for me
we came to an understanding that I will stay there....she will let me know when it ends with him...I said if it ends and she said, no, "when" it ends
to be honest with you, I don't know if I can do this I told her that I don't want to be lied to anymore....that it was out in the open and she had no reason to lie to me anymore....I told her that I will stay as long as I am in love with her. I told her that we need to start over with respect for each other which = no lies and then friendship
I guess I will no when I can't take her having this affair any longer
