MrsNOP found a really interesting site with studies on human sexuality here.
I found that the comments regarding studies of sexual betrayal to be of particular interest.
On a not so serious note, there is a jazz vocalist that I really like, Erin Bode, that happens to look very much like a young MrsNOP. Here is the link to her site.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I'm glad you liked the track and MrsNOP's young look alike.
MrsNOP WAS/is hot! She had this pink bikini.... screeching tires and car wrecks - really. Ah, the 70's.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Yeah, lucky for me I didn't become sexually active until 1980 or I might have broken your record. -LOL. (Although I did look pretty hot in a bikini by 1978 but actually I got more attention when I wore my one-piece that looked like Wonder Woman's costume. Lot of super-heroine fetishists out there, I guess.)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Here's another song for you and Mrs.NOP. Tim Buckley is relatively new to me but you might remember him from the 60's. This song is from Starsailor.
Come Here Woman
You caught me staring so gently You tease me and turn away Unlike the young ones Your movements you savor Like a tango My hideaways are longing for you You shyly conjure These moments surrounding Keep me tonight All your practiced ways you secretly entice me Come here woman!
Like an old window I need a little shade Like an old tomcat Lord I love to parade Like a broken old man Lord I need sun
Ah, I need you darlin' Cause I just ain't done
While wheel waters set Now my blood yearns Your mouth opens woman Give me broken lies When you don't feel pain Let me smell your thighs, mama Let me drink down a little rain, man While we're drifting cold Out beyond the seas We wither time into a coil of fear
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I just took a Human Sexuality class. It was a requirement but I also thought it might help me understand more, hehe. That website is awesome, I had found that during research. I had to research "attractiveness". I wonder if that may be a contributing factor for the SSM... I am not a shallow person by any means but I am realistic. Unfortunately, looks do matter!! I have gained 10 lbs since I married... my H would never ever say anything about it, but I know he cares!!!! He has gained 10 lbs as well but I really dont care. Maybe if he gained 25 lbs, I would notice... and to him maybe 10 lbs is enuf for him to notice!!! lol Anyway, I chose not to let this hurt me because it is his preference and there is nothing wrong with that, it would hurt me if he ever made me feel bad. So, since I am trying to make some changes... I am on a mission to lose that extra 10 for myself and him, maybe that would make him more attracted to me again... If nothing else, I will feel better about myself and fit into my summer clothes!!
Anyway, I wanted to reply because I liked that website!!! Always good to learn something more or new!
Regardless of the controversy that surrounds the idea, attractiveness can be of prime importance to some spouses.
I have read of spouses that walked away because their spouse gained weight, or didn't take care of themselves to the same standards that they did at the start of their marriage. Interestingly, I have read of this where the offended spouse walked away even though they had completely let themselves go, but still held the other spouse to the original standard.
I can't guess as to whether it bothers your hubby or not, but if losing the weight is not a big deal for you, then it won't hurt to try.
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I completely agree :-)
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
